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A kind hearted Nigerian woman, Ada
Ujaligwa recently changed the life of her house girl, Ngozi whom she met 17 years ago.
Here’s what Ada Ujaligwa wrote on Facebook;
On
the 5th of August 2017, my legally adopted daughter Ngozi Udenwa got
married to the man who was specially handpicked for her by God
himself….. A wonderful young man I must say
Some of you already
know a bit about how she became my daughter but the majority of you have
no idea and I wish to share the amazing story of our journey together
as mother and daughter…..
In the year 2000, barely 2 months after I
gave birth to my first child, by sheer happenstance I got a second
househelp….. My first househelp had gone home to see her family briefly
and I needed someone to cover for her until she returned….. My parents
got me the second househelp to help me with my new baby so I could face
my studies squarely, seeing that I was a 5th year medical student at the
time. That second househelp was Ngozi Udenwa my daughter….. She was
only to stay with me for a short while, just a few days but she ended up
staying with me until the 5th of August 2017….. More than 17yrs in
total!!!
When she came into my care, she was a lovely, humble,
lowly, young innocent beautiful girl whose only ambition in life was to
be sent to school….. She had completed primary school but was yet to
commence secondary school….. She was very passionate about going to
secondary school at all cost, and I assured her that not only would she
go to secondary school, she would also go to the University and be a
huge success under the care of my husband and I….. To the glory of God’s
mighty name Amen
And
so our journey started….. I quickly observed that she was a very
humble, patient and kind hearted person….. Ngozi approached every task
you gave her with equanimity…. She was never flustered nor irritated…..
She always did her tasks thoroughly and with great conscience ….. She
was also particularly honest, trust worthy and hard working, she hardly
ever complained about anything and when she did, I always took her
seriously, knowing that for her to talk, it must be something of great
significance ….. A very mild mannered, meek, respectful, tolerant and
peaceful young lady….. She was a pleasure to have in my home….. She
treated my children like she was their own mother, she would cry when
they were sick, I was amazed at the love she showered on them whether I
was around or not, her behaviour towards them was always the same…. She
treated them exactly the same in my absence as she did in my presence…..
And that was one of the best things about her….. She was always without
any form of pretence….. Ngozi did not know and still does not know the
meaning of “eye-service”….. With her what you saw was what you got
whether she was being watched or not….. The consistency in the goodness
she exudes greatly endeared her to my husband, myself and all the
members of our families who had the opportunity of dealing with her….
Everyone
admired the dedication with which she loved and cared for my children
and my home….. She is the kind of person you can leave your kids with
and go to Timbuktu and sleep with your 2 eyes closed, confident in the
knowledge that your children would be cared for as if you were the one
caring for them yourself…. As the kids grew older, they testified to the
goodness of Aunty Ngo as they all refer to her …..
My husband and
I enrolled her in secondary school as soon as she settled into our
home….. And she proved to be an intelligent, ambitious and focused young
lady to our collective delight….. She knew what she wanted and she set
out to achieve it….. By the time she came to our home, her biological
mother was already deceased, a few years into her secondary education,
she also lost her biological father….. And became an orphan
biologically….. As time went on, we decided to relocate abroad and we
decided to legally adopt her and take her with us….. By then she had
lived with us for 4 years and we were pretty confident that we were
doing the right thing and that with God on our side, neither of us was
going to regret the move to make Ngozi our legally adopted daughter,
with all the rights and privileges that go with her newly acquired
status….. The adoption process was rigorous but we succeeded in the end
and we brought her with us to Ireland….. My husband and I promised her
that if she remained as loyal, respectful, hardworking and peaceful as
she has been, then we will ensure that she becomes a university graduate
and an Irish citizen, God willing.
She became a very important
member of our family, providing the much needed robust domestic support
while she was enrolled into the Irish educational system to work her way
into the tertiary institution here….. Through us she became an Irish
citizen and
soon got a good job while she continued to study…..To the glory of
God’s mighty name Amen….. And this year she graduated from the
University …..
I am so grateful to God and proud of her for achieving this great feat
because I know just how much she wanted this….. And less than a month
after she graduated, she got married to her Prince Charming…. …. Talk about everything coming together for good to those who love God, who work according to His purpose…..
Ngozi
could have given us hell in Ireland if she wanted to…. Infact she was
advised to do so by some unscrupulous elements when she was about to
leave Nigeria with us …. But she CHOSE to give us peace and joy and in
return she is reaping peace and joy…. She played a key role in
maintaining the stability of my home and now she will enjoy great
stability in her own home, as it has pleased God….. We have become so
close as mother and daughter that I hardly remember that she was once my
househelp….. We have a deeply confiding relationship and my children
are as much her children as they are her siblings too….. They are mad
about Aunty Ngo and won’t hesitate to fell anyone who stands in the way
of her happiness….. It gives us tremendous joy as a family to see her
become a success in both her personal and in her professional life…. She
is both personally, professionally and economically fulfilled…. Chineke
daalu ….. My husband and I are so elated that through the grace, mercy
and favour of God, we fulfilled our promise to her ….. Our promise to
her that she will become successful in all aspects of her life if she
remained good has been fulfilled today…. Holy Trinity in one God we bow
down and worship you for enabling us to make good on our promise to her
after she delivered her own part of the agreement.
My family and I
travelled en masse to Nigeria this July in order to send her forth,
honour her and celebrate with her as she commenced her new life as a
married woman…. It is our fervent prayer that God continues to reward
her goodness and loyalty to us even as we have tried in our own little
way to reward her through the grace, mercy and favour of God Amen
From my Househelp My legally adopted Daughter Irish citizen Working class girl Graduate Beloved wife of a good man….. It took 17 yrs but she’s finally where she truly wants to be……Thank you Jesus….. Amen ….. She was patient….. Very patient…. But she now has it all, against all odds….. Chineke daalu
Humility,
patience and a great sense of loyalty made her what she is today…..
Humility attracted God’s favour into her life, patience helped her wait
for the full manifestations of God’s blessings and her loyalty to us was
rewarded with our loyalty to her….. Seeing Ngozi go from a lowly
impoverished househelp to an economically viable university graduate who
is now an Irish citizen and a happily married woman has added more
years to my life because of the sense of fulfilment it affords me…… I am
indeed deeply gratified…. Chineke daalu
Humility is the mother of all virtues….. If you want to be served….. You must first serve!
….. With patience and humility!!!
Jesus Igweeeeeeeeeeee
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