Stella Damasus is no stranger to public backlash, internet trolls and derogatory name calling.
She was called an husband snatcher and more in 2013 after she got romantically involved with Daniel Ademinokan, her fellow Nollywood colleague Doris Simeon’s ex-husband.
With all of these, Stella has kept her calm and has maintained a low-key status whilst residing in her home in America.
Having seen it all, she has useful advise on what to do when the troll comes calling.
Read what she posted via her blog:
“People have asked me over the years how I have handled the
criticisms, trolls, negative comments, media bashing and crazy insults. I
have put together 20 of the most effective methods that have helped me.
I hope you find them useful.
1. Acknowledge the fact that haters thrive on Hate. It is a negative attribute/trait which kills internally and fast.
2. If you claim to be a positive person, don’t waste your time dwelling on the negative.
3. You need to understand the fact that these people are HURTING
within themselves. They need to escape from that hurt or take it out on
someone.
4. Don’t let them drag you into their HATE HOLE. If you hate them back then you have become exactly like them. Your loss.
5. You cannot control what people do or say, but you can control how you react to it.
6. INTERNET TROLLING is a very addictive habit. Instead of making
them important, see them as addicts who desperately need rehabilitation.
Addiction is a silent killer.
7. Don’t waste your time getting angry at people who don’t even know
you. It is not logical to allow strangers feed off your anger. They are
not worth your emotions.
8. Most times, people who make the loudest noise need attention. They
can never be relevant without it. Don’t be the one to make them popular
by responding.
9. Get used to the fact that FREE social media has given even the
most ignorant and jobless person a platform to speak his ignorance and
lash out.
10. Rage is such a powerful life consuming emotion. It takes a lot of
pain and anger to spit out VENOM, especially on people they don’t know.
Your HATERS feel that they are hurting you when they say ugly things to
you but they don’t realize how deep their pain has eaten into them.
Pray for them because they are in pain and their hearts are deeply
troubled. Remember that they may not realize this until it’s too late.
11. Your HATERS are mostly people who follow you and monitor all you
do, so they can have opportunities to attack you. Guess what? You are
more important to them than they are to you. You are being followed, but
they are the ones doing the following. Who should have the upper hand?
12. The more they talk, the more you should RISE. Their negative
comments should become your driving force to succeed and do more. The
more you rise the more difficult it becomes for them to keep up. If they
STOP harassing you, the RAGE MIGHT destroy them so they need you to
SURVIVE.
13. Nothing can change their minds about you regardless of the amount
of work you do to try and impress them. Focus on more important things,
not how to change their mind. They don’t know you so what do they want
to hate? They think they hate you because of their PAIN but their
thoughts often lead them to more pain and destruction. Do you really
want to get involved in all of that?
14. If they had more important things to do, they will not have the
time to look for you, follow you, read your posts or look at your
pictures, watch your videos then plan and construct their HATE comments.
Trust me, this takes a lot of time and energy. If YOU had more
important things to do, you will not have the time to look for the
haters and you certainly will not have time to respond to all of them.
Make them feel like you don’t even know they exist, neither do you see
or acknowledge their comments. After a while, they get tired of trying
to get at you.
15. If you were not relevant or making an impact, you will not have
HATERS. What do you really want? Be less than average and not have any
haters or be very successful, important and attract HATERS.
16. Your HATERS want what you have, they want the life that you have
but can’t have it. Their reaction to this realization is to HATE YOU. By
letting their comments torment you, it means you are accepting the fact
that their unimportant life is your fault.
17. It is better to be talked about than to be the one who does the talking.
18. People hate what they don’t understand. When they can’t decipher
the reason behind your success or happiness they will HATE YOU. Be happy
that you have something they want. Always remember to thank God because
it’s not the other way round.
19. Try not to respond to comments when you’re angry. Whatever you
say at that point will be out of anger and this will make you seem worse
than the HATER. They always try to provoke you to respond so that you
condescend to their level. Resist the temptation to fire back at them
with your own words.
20. Whatever you feed more will grow more. Don’t feed the haters by
paying attention to them. Let them starve because you will not feed them
with your time and attention. Guess what happens to a starved troll…
When you get uncomfortable, simply DELETE COMMENT, BLOCK THE USER OR
REPORT THE ACCOUNT.”
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