Louise Warneford and her husband, Mark, 55, from Swindon, endured
countless rounds of IVF – costing around £80,000 – over 16 years before a
specialist finally found the reason behind her miscarriages.
After coming close to giving up in 2010, the couple agreed to have
one final try after a doctor told them a donor embryo might be
successful, and Louise gave birth to a healthy baby boy, William, at 37
The breakthrough came in 2015 – when doctors identified that she had
‘killer cells’ which meant her own body was destroying her embryos.
Although Louise and Mark say people sometimes mistake the couple for
baby William’s grandparents, they are over-the-moon to finally have a
child of their own.
‘Mark and I had been trying for a baby since I was 32. We’d
suffered 18 miscarriages and spent £80,000 but looking at William now,
it was all worth it.
‘I’m not the spring chicken that I used to be and it does take me a while to chase him around the floor but it’s worth it.’
The couple first met in 1999 and Louise immediately knew that Mark was ‘the one’ that she wanted to start a family with.
However, due to Mark’s vasectomy from a previous relationship,
the pair had to look for alternative ways to make Louise’s dream of
having a baby a reality.
‘We went to a fertility specialist to find out about the quickest way of conceiving, and they suggested a sperm insemination.
‘So we found a donor who had the same attributes as Mark and I, and we went along with the process.’
‘I fell pregnant a number of times with the insemination, but every
single time I ended up losing the baby around the 14-week scan mark as
they couldn’t find the heartbeat.
‘Each time I got my hopes up and thought that “this was it” and I
was going to have the perfect family I’d always wanted – I couldn’t
stop crying every time I miscarried.
‘We decided to try IVF but despite falling pregnant a number of times, we always lost the baby.
‘It was a complete mystery why my body kept rejecting my baby at just a few weeks old but it was heart-breaking every single time.
Louise gave up on her dream in 2010, unable to face any more attempts.
‘There is no grief that can compare to losing a much loved and wanted baby – all your hopes and dreams are shattered.
‘We’d even tried using an egg donor but that failed as well.’
However, determined to find out what was wrong with her body for
peace of mind, Louise decided to find a clinic who could finally
diagnose her fertility problem.
‘I met a specialist in maternal medicine called Doctor Shehata
and he told me that I had killer cells in my body, which was why I
couldn’t hold a child.
‘I told him I’d had 18 miscarriages and that I couldn’t go through that again but he gave me the courage to have one more try.
‘I didn’t do anything until four years later, when I was 47 and I said to Mark that we had to try one more time before I was 50.
‘This time, because I was too old for certain clinics in the UK, I
decided to do my own research and had embryo donation in the Gynem
Clinic in Prague.
The couple finally got pregnant when Louise was 47 and, despite a
nerve-wrenching nine months, their son William was born healthy.
‘He was born at 37 weeks through a planned C-section because I was told that there was a problem with the placenta.
‘Although I couldn’t enjoy my pregnancy, because I was constantly
scared that I was going to lose him, it was completely worth it for my
Louise is now sharing her story to provide help for anyone facing a
similar situation to her and to raise discussion about miscarriages.
‘It was the toughest time in my life, but it’s so worth it for our dream baby.