Folashade
Okoya who is the Deputy Managing Director of Eleganza Industrial City, shares
her marital experience in this interview held at their Lagos mansion.
I must confess that you look so trim for a
mother of four. How did you manage this?
Thank you
and welcome to my home. I have been blessed, I eat right, I sleep very well and
everything just worked out the way I planned.
A
lot of people see the Shade that is the Fashionista, that is celebrity but the
real Shade I hear works so hard. Tell us what you do away from the cameras
especially in the Eleganza Industrial City
The
journey has been a very wonderful one so far. People have their opinion
regarding what they think about me but I think majority of my close friend know
I work day in day out. That is one of the reasons we brought out the Eleganza
Industrial City. It is less than three years, it is a baby of the Eleganza Group
of Companies. It is a new dream come true for the Eleganza Group. It is
different kind of joy when you dream of something and it actually becomes a
reality. We do chairs, we have over 68 designs of chairs. Most people see the
glitz and glamour but I have been married to my husband for 17 years and I have
been working all these years. People who are close know how hard I work.
Getting
married to someone who is a workaholic how were you able to fit in
He made me
realise that he likes to work and that is part of his life. He made me
understand that if I want to make it work, I had to work like him.
You
got married at 21 when your husband was 59, was age a barrier at all?
My husband
was very sincere. That alone got me. I just knew this is where I wanted to be. A
Yoruba proverb says, “You do not look at the crowd or people around you but
focus on where you want to go.” I do not believe in doing something and failing
so having taken that decision, I had to make sure and do everything so it
works.
Recently
your husband celebrated his 76th birthday, as someone close to him,
tell us what we don’t know about him
My husband
is a very open person. He is very generous to a fault .He is a very loving
person, very loving as a result of being shy, he tries to hide away from some
things. He is a very shy man. They will think he is quiet. This makes us work
very well because I am very shy person myself. My shyness makes me keep calm.
You
have said he is a very loving person, is it that love that swept you off your
feet 17 years ago?
My husband
is very loving and very caring. We are all humans, and it depends on what you
see that makes you think, okay let me give this think a thought. My husband
will tell you that he is a go-getter, he will tell you that he never loses in
anything he wants. Anything he desires, he works towards getting it.
So you are one of
those things he won?
(Laughs) I
guess so.
What
attracted you to him?
(She
pauses for a second) and then answers: Maybe his hardwork. His hard work and
his generosity.
When
you got married 17 years ago, there were a lot of criticisms, how did you feel?
I was
young and when you are young, you do not listen to comments, when you grow
older. Then I just said it was my choice, I just thought it was my life
and it was the way I present my life that matters and people would take me for
who I am.
That
decision you took 17 years ago if given the opportunity will you do it again?
I think I
would have done it at a much younger age. Now when I look back, I look at my
children, growing as told as me, the fun I have with them as a mother now, I
would have loved to have two years earlier. I would have wanted my children to
be older now, we hang out a lot. I would have wanted them to be more matured.
If
your daughter comes to tell you he wants to marry a man of that age would you
allow her?
It is her
choice. I made my choice and now I am happy. If I had married a younger man, I
wouldn’t have lasted in that relationship.
The interview was conducted in 2016 when Chief Razak Okoya clocked 76, today,
he is 77 years old.