Music artiste, Kas Shobayo popularly known as Kas Beats, is married to Tare, a lawyer. They share their love story in this new interview with Sunday spice.
How and when did you meet your wife?
Kas: I met her in 2007,
at The Headies Awards. She attended the event in company with her
cousin, who was billed to perform at the event. Immediately I saw her, I
knew that she would be my wife. I asked for her name, and as she was
about to tell me, I interrupted her speech and said “Mrs.Kas.” She
thought I was crazy but I was convinced that I had seen my wife.
at The Headies Awards. She attended the event in company with her
cousin, who was billed to perform at the event. Immediately I saw her, I
knew that she would be my wife. I asked for her name, and as she was
about to tell me, I interrupted her speech and said “Mrs.Kas.” She
thought I was crazy but I was convinced that I had seen my wife.
When did you decide to marry her?
Kas: I wanted to marry
her from the first day I met her, but we had our court wedding in 2009
and the traditional marriage held in January last year. We will have our
white wedding soon.
her from the first day I met her, but we had our court wedding in 2009
and the traditional marriage held in January last year. We will have our
white wedding soon.
What was the initial attraction?
Tare: He is my kind of man; I love his skin colour, he was free with me when we met and I loved that.
Kas: She was and still is the girl of my dreams because she has all the qualities I want in a woman.
While you courted, did you think he would disappoint you?
Tare: I never thought
so because he addressed me as Mrs.Kas from the first day we met and from
that day, nothing changed. I knew he loved me a lot, so I had nothing
to be bothered about.
so because he addressed me as Mrs.Kas from the first day we met and from
that day, nothing changed. I knew he loved me a lot, so I had nothing
to be bothered about.
Was there any opposition from family members before you got married?
Tare: At first, my
parents did not accept him because they were not comfortable with the
fact that I wanted to marry a musician. It wasn’t easy but we were able
to convince them that we knew what we were doing. His family loves me
and I am thankful for that.
parents did not accept him because they were not comfortable with the
fact that I wanted to marry a musician. It wasn’t easy but we were able
to convince them that we knew what we were doing. His family loves me
and I am thankful for that.
How would you describe your marriage?
Tare: I won’t say it
has been good all along but I thank God for where we are. We went
through a lot and there was a time we parted ways, but at the end of it
all we discovered that we still wanted to be with each other.
has been good all along but I thank God for where we are. We went
through a lot and there was a time we parted ways, but at the end of it
all we discovered that we still wanted to be with each other.
Kas: Our relationship
was good up until her parents disapproved of our relationship. We went
through a lot trying to make them accept me.Thankfully, they have
accepted me and we are one big family.
was good up until her parents disapproved of our relationship. We went
through a lot trying to make them accept me.Thankfully, they have
accepted me and we are one big family.
How often do you have misunderstandings as a couple?
Kas: Misunderstandings are inevitable in any relationship.Most times they occur when we fail to agree with each other’s opinions.
Who apologises first after a disagreement?
Tare: I think I do
because my husband loves to be the man and he is so African when it
comes to marriage. Most times, I let him have his way by apologising and
then we become friends again. He rarely apologises.
because my husband loves to be the man and he is so African when it
comes to marriage. Most times, I let him have his way by apologising and
then we become friends again. He rarely apologises.
Kas: I apologise as fast as I can and usually when we are together in bed.
Do you invite a third party sometimes?
Kas: I did invite a
third party in the past. I involved my brother, my parents and her
parents too but I soon discovered it did not help matters get better.
However, the only third party I involve now is the Holy Spirit because I
have come to the realisation that intervention from the third party is
bad for all marriages.
third party in the past. I involved my brother, my parents and her
parents too but I soon discovered it did not help matters get better.
However, the only third party I involve now is the Holy Spirit because I
have come to the realisation that intervention from the third party is
bad for all marriages.
Tare: I would advise
couples to put God first in their relationship because marriage is not a
bed of roses. There are many challenges we face in the marriage
institution. Couples just need to be patient with each other, and learn
to understand each other more.
couples to put God first in their relationship because marriage is not a
bed of roses. There are many challenges we face in the marriage
institution. Couples just need to be patient with each other, and learn
to understand each other more.
Do you have separate bank accounts?
Kas: We have separate bank accounts. I do not know her ATM PIN and or how much she has in her account.
What would you say is responsible for the success of your marriage?
Tare: I would say God has been good to our marriage and we both really understand each other.
Kas: I would say patience and understanding. Living with a woman is not easy.
Do you sometimes regret being married to a celebrity?
Tare: Not at all,
because my husband knows how to keep his personal life very private. He
balances his career and family life perfectly. When he is out there, he
is KAS but when he is home, he is our loving husband and daddy. He gives
everyone the love and attention they deserve.
because my husband knows how to keep his personal life very private. He
balances his career and family life perfectly. When he is out there, he
is KAS but when he is home, he is our loving husband and daddy. He gives
everyone the love and attention they deserve.
How do you react when female fans celebrate your husband?
Tare: I feel very proud
and happy; he is my Michael Jackson. I know that his hard work is not
in vain because he is acknowledged for it.
and happy; he is my Michael Jackson. I know that his hard work is not
in vain because he is acknowledged for it.
How do you relate with female fans?
Kas: I have a cordial
relationship with my female fans. I relate to them like my extended
family. I am nice to them, treat them special, and I appreciate them all
the time.
relationship with my female fans. I relate to them like my extended
family. I am nice to them, treat them special, and I appreciate them all
the time.
Are you jealous of your wife’s admirers?
Kas: I don’t get
jealous because I am a very confident person. I trust my wife so much
and we usually laugh and joke about her admirers. I believe that
challenges will come and go, but our love will always remain the same.
jealous because I am a very confident person. I trust my wife so much
and we usually laugh and joke about her admirers. I believe that
challenges will come and go, but our love will always remain the same.
Why do you think some celebrities are unfaithful to their spouses?
Tare: It takes the
grace of God for a celebrity to remain faithful to his or her spouse. I
see how most ladies throw themselves at celebrities in a reckless
manner. Most men would get carried away by it, so it takes a very
determined and God-fearing person to resist such enticement.
grace of God for a celebrity to remain faithful to his or her spouse. I
see how most ladies throw themselves at celebrities in a reckless
manner. Most men would get carried away by it, so it takes a very
determined and God-fearing person to resist such enticement.
What are the most valuable gifts you have shared as a couple?
Kas: I would say our sons because they are gifts from God. I can’t think of any gift that is more valuable than my children.
What are the challenges of being married to a celebrity?
Tare: Most times, he is
either in one country or the other performing, so I am all alone for
that period. Bogus stories on the social media and ladies who are out to
destroy marriages pose a huge challenge. These women don’t mind being a
celebrity’s ‘side chick’ or ‘baby mama.’
either in one country or the other performing, so I am all alone for
that period. Bogus stories on the social media and ladies who are out to
destroy marriages pose a huge challenge. These women don’t mind being a
celebrity’s ‘side chick’ or ‘baby mama.’
Do you sometimes disagree over finances?
Kas: My wife usually
gets upset whenever I spend money on some things which she terms
unnecessary. My wife isn’t extravagant, so even when I’m not buoyant she
never complains. When we first met I did not have much, and she was
there for me. We are a content couple and have no reason to disagree
over finances.
gets upset whenever I spend money on some things which she terms
unnecessary. My wife isn’t extravagant, so even when I’m not buoyant she
never complains. When we first met I did not have much, and she was
there for me. We are a content couple and have no reason to disagree
over finances.
What advice do you have for celebrity spouses?
Tare: I would advise
them to keep their personal lives private. They must not share all that
happens between them with the whole world especially on social media. I
would also advise them to involve God in their marriage, because He is
the only one that can make things work.
them to keep their personal lives private. They must not share all that
happens between them with the whole world especially on social media. I
would also advise them to involve God in their marriage, because He is
the only one that can make things work.
Kas: They must not wash
their dirty linen in public; they should solve their problems without
attracting attention to themselves and keep it away from the social
media. Patience and understanding are some of the key ingredients of a
successful union.
their dirty linen in public; they should solve their problems without
attracting attention to themselves and keep it away from the social
media. Patience and understanding are some of the key ingredients of a
successful union.
What pet names do you call each other?
Kas: She calls me babe while sometimes I call her Mama Afo ati Giogio; because our sons’ names are Afolabi and Giovanni.