‘How Having Too Much Ego Affected My Marriage In The First 2 Years” – Adaeze Yobo

When I changed from my “I deserve” mentality to “we deserve” slowly, the tables turned”

Ex-beauty queen Adaeze Yobo is the wife of former Super Eagles
captain Joseph Yobo. She took to Instagram
earlier today with a pictorial message (below) of how she has made her
4-year marriage work.

According to her, “This
reminded me so much of the first 2years of my marriage (when i had too
much ego, it was all about me and what “I deserve”) I will always
randomly have in mind that my husband shld know “we gotta go out” i wld
seat my ass down all the time and just get mad, I mean doesn’t he know? I
won’t even tell him nonsense!
It wasn’t that i desperately wanted to go out cos most of the time, we
did we had nothing to say to each other but my “i deserve mentality” my
after all, i’m the woman” “the queen” mentality, was my motivating
factor. Just texting or calling my hubby to say “hey babe, there is this
restaurant that makes the best prawns (his fav?) let’s casually go
after yur training. Was what I shld hav said but here is what I actually
said for 2 years, “Joe (which is what I call him wen am mad)?
everybody went to that restaurant on that street and even last night
this persons husband took her”. Then he goes from 0-100 in like 2.2 secs
and then my ego kicks in. (You don’t want to know how fast I also went
kuku)?and no one ends up eating? I always said to the pple that i
complain to, “How dare he? just cos I want us to go out and have a nice
dinner, dont i Deserve it eh”?
Anyway, the moral of this (long) story, is that when I changed from my
“i deserve” mentality to “we deserve” slowly, the tables turned. Now he
makes our date plan calender for a month? i lost out on seeing that
soft amazing person he is for the first 2years cos I was always ready to
fire, after all he Shld have read the manual before marriage”


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