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Er, MayD, other wife beaters need to read this message from Charly Boy

Just hours ago, singer, May D was accused of being a woman beater by the mother of his child, Adebola Olowoporoku.
Well, maverick entertainer Charley boy who has got his own sheer of controversies, has now talked about why men beat their wives and why/how they are doing it the wrong way.

Read below;

When I look back at my life, and all the stuff I did
as a carefree, young and restless youth,  I can’t help but shudder at
some of my very bad habits. Yes, I was once short-fused; blowing off at
the slightest provocation. It was pitiful. Over time I have managed to
rid myself of such sad habits but that can’t be said for a lot of men
some of who, even late in their lives can’t still get over it, thereby
losing their cool in their homes. No be small thing sha.

Domestic violence is an under reported crime in Nigeria, almost
accepted as norm. Some  men feel it’s their right, some feel it’s always
the women who bring out the beast in them, while others will readily
admit its a way of stamping their authority in the home. Sadly, many
don’t see anything wrong with beating their wives. How sad! Yes, am
aware there are women who beat up their husbands, but those are in the
minority and this piece ain’t about them. The most guilty perpetrators
are usually men and the victims are mostly their wives and sometimes
their children too. 

Men abusing women is like a defence and coping mechanism for
being or feeling WEAK in other aspects of life, sometimes including deep
analog beliefs about masculinity. Men who abuse loved ones tend to
blame other things or people for their violent outbursts. In some cases,
it is a cycle: “my father abused me and my mom, so, it’s  normal”.

Society doesn’t help either, it ingrains in a man’s psyche that
macho bullshit; how he should be strong and if he can’t exhibit that in
his daily public life, it’s ok for him to go home and prove his
strength. 

Abusive men are not limited to a particular status, it ranges
from a bricklayer to a CEO or even a President, causing their women to
perpetually live in anxiety and fear. Most of them tip-toe around their
husbands, not because they respect these men, but because of fear.

A violent man might have grown up in a dysfunctional household
but this is still not a reason to be abusive. It is an excuse, and a
flimsy one at that.

Some men don’t come from humble homes where women are appreciated.
Some of us come from homes that expose us to sex, gossip, male macho
bullshit. Values for treating women start with where you’re coming from,
your background. However, beyond these, what fucks most men up is our
BIG FAT EGO. It has everything to do with selfishness or overrated
feeling of self-importance. QED.

Ego is the source of many negatives in the world. It is the false
‘self’ that Jesus said we should let die before we can gain everlasting
life. Ego craves to be first, but we must be willing to be last.
Unconditional love comes with humility, selflessness, abundant
generosity, perfect responsibility, fearless confidence.

I no go brag, am not all that, but I dey try. God knows!
Now, for the man who feels trapped in this mad dance with his
loved ones and is trying very hard to rid himself of this very terrible
habit, do like me. If you star
t to feel that your fuse is about to
burst, try and say nothing, hold it in for a few minutes and relocate
yourself to another space, either in your house, or outside. Allow some
time to elapse before you express yourself, never talk or let your fist
run amok when you’re upset; it doesn’t make for a good picture.
Even though I have cured myself of my short fuse, i still get
tempted from time to time. What works best for me now is silence. I go
and lock myself in my room and will never utter a word to my lady until
am sure am in control of my faculties. Since many moons ago, I have
discovered that this is a very effective option in dealing with a very
bad temper.

So next time you are with your woman and you feel like turning
her into a punching bag, change the game, beat her with your silence for
the period you feel like blowing your fuse. Na my way be that oooooo.

This is just my take sha, how you see the matter my guys?

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