So yesterday was the 51st birthday of Gloria Bamiloye, wife of the CEO of the Mount Zion Faith Ministries (Nigeria’s biggest gospel movie makers)…and her hubby, Mike celebrated her in the most beautiful way.
Yea, Pastors are romantic too. He told the story of how they met and also advised single sisters, read below:
“MY DEAREST SINGLE SISTERS”
(Tribute to My Wife – Sister Gloria Bamiloye)
Proverbs 31:10-12, 23, 28, 30 NKJV
 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.
 She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.
 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.
 Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her:
 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
Yesterday, February 4th, 2015, was my wife’s 51st Birthday. And this
year would be the 27years since 1988 the year we got married, when she
was only 24 years old and I was 28. Since then, we have travelled
through the thicks and the thins together, we have climbed the mountains
and descended into the valleys together. We have faced adverse physical
and spiritual situations together. We have both confronted together,
daunting challenges that have stood and those that are still standing
against our lives and ministry.
Yesterday, she was 51 and she
got phone calls and congratulatory text messages on phone and on
Facebook page through out yesterday till late in the night. Our two sons
brought her gift – two digitally painted pictures of her early years on
film set. And I also bought her a small teddy bear. The several phone
calls and congratulatory messages of the birthday made us feel a large
crowd of well-wishers had attended our birthday party. Thank you all.
But what is special about this great woman is when I remember how we
started and how we have been journeying this journey since then. And
when I recall some of the things that happen today among our single and
marriagable sisters, I can not but give praises to the Lord God who
brought this simple and humble sister my way several years ago.
have written this story in some of my write-ups and in one of my books,
however, there is need to recall some of it for the benefit of some of
our single sisters who might need to learn from it. I graduated from
higher institution in 1983 and served in 1983/84. Right from the Campus
days, I had been involved in drama ministry, all through my Youth
Service, I was sending drama scripts back into the fellowship for drama
presentations and I would travel down from Plateau State to direct the
rehearsals and participate in the major drama presentation on Drama
After my Youth Service in 1984, I was involved fully in
campus drama evangelism with the fellowship drama group, travelling to
other campuses and churches outside the campus for drama presentation.
And Sister Gloria was among the new members that joined the drama group.
In 1985, sometimes in early July, I proposed to her to marry me
and she told me she would pray over it. On August 4th, 1985, she
revisited my proposal and said “Yes” to it. So, our journey began. Now,
the real issue was that, I had nothing. I had nothing physical or
material that any lady could be proud of. I had only one single room,
with one bed, one table and chair, a standing hanger where I hanged my
few fading shirts and only one suit which I used to iron from time to
time and red tie from special occassion.
Inside the single room was my
cooking stove and a dilapidated standing fan, which had lost its foot
and the head was tied facing the bed. And of course, a precious item –
my bookshelf serving as a small library.
So, when Sister Gloria
visited my abode for the first time, these were all I had and she saw.
My physical and material possessions could never be compared to what I
was on the campus. “Bro Mike” was famous among the fellowship as a
“gym-gym” brother full of zeal for drama and drama only.
And the drama
group of the fellowship became the most influential of all the
sub-groups of the fellowship, because almost all the executive officers
became members of the sub-group, including the President and the
Vice-President and the General Secretary of the Christian Fellowship. So
I was so rich in spiritual substance and full of great visons, but had
no enviable physical or material possessions any young lady could be
But, when Sis Gloria entered my room, one afternoon,
she never saw all those things I mentioned but only one thing arrested
her attention: my bookshelf containing several spiritual books,
including the books of Kenneth Hagins, Oral Roberts, T.L. Osborne,
Osward J. Smith, etc. She hasten to the shelf and shouted “Whao!”, and
she sat by the bookshelf and began to look at those precious books she
had longed to have and read. Ah!.
I was happy I had what she wanted and
desired. She wanted spiritual books that would make her grow. And I had
just that! All other things never mattered to her.
I had nothing
physical, but I had a great vision of the future and she embraced that
vision with all her heart and might. When her senior brothers and her
parents were demanding from her to know the work that her fiancee was
doing that could qualify him to marry her, she stood on my behalf to
defend me before her people that I was into drama ministry and there was
a great future ahead of us.
The people could not see what she was
talking about, because I was already on full-time drama ministry and I
had no physical enviable thing they all could hold on to. They were
furious with her and thought she must be out of her mind to have decided
to marry “a man who has no job and no physical possession and no
When we informed them we wanted to get married
three years down our courtship, they revolted and my Mummy ( my elder
sister), led the war to Sis Gloria’s parents to warn them never to give
their daughter to me in marriage because I had no job to take care of
their daughter. She stood by what God had told her about me, that there
was a great future ahead of us.
The Lord convinced them all and
they supported us and we married in 1988, three years after the Mount
Zion ministry launched. And our journey to that future began.
AND 27 YEARS AFTER, WE ARE STILL ON THE JOURNEY TO THE FUTURE.
WE HAVE NOT YET ARRIVED THERE, BUT OUR STORY HAS BEEN GETTING BETTER
THAN WHEN WE BEGAN THIS JOURNEY TOGETHER.
Now, to my Dearest Single Sisters, a lot of us are missing it today. A
lot of us have been seriously deceived and misled by erronenous marriage
teachings and lectures of confused marriage counsellors and teachers. A
woman was once invited to one of our sisters’ conference, invited to
come and minister to our single sisters. She mounted the pulpit and
shocked us by saying, no sisters should marry any brother who is not
materially capable of being a husband.
She said she also counselled her
daughters to be gather as many materials as possible before getting
married; that her daughters must go into mariage with enough
self-sufficiency. She ought to have got a lot of things like fridge,
electronic gadgets, dinning sets and other things that could make her
stand tall as a self-sufficient lady. I told my wife, that the woman
would never be invited to any of our conferences again. The teaching was
I heard some marriage teachers taught their single
sisters to check the Bank Account statement of the man who come
proposing to them before they consider their proposals. If the Bank
Account is very lean, then, they need not bother themselves considering
the proposals. Some sisters would go and pay visit to the houses and
apartments of the men who proposed to them, before they could begin to
consider their proposals.
A young brother who had waited for
almost a year before the sister finally said “Yes”, later came back to
me after almost one year of courtship, to tell me that the lady suddenly
began to ask some strange questions about his projections for the
future and what he hopes to achieve and possess in a year’s time and
what he hopes to acquire in two years’ time; the amount he hope to have
saved for the wedding in two years. And when he told the sister that he
was not sure of the amount he could save for the wedding neither does he
have any future projection, but he is a minister of God and she could
see all the works he has been doing for the Lord and he knows the Lord
has a great future for him as he keeps serving Him.
This made the sister
began to reconsider the relationship. Then, she said later, that she
didn’t think they were compatible, because she thought he had no future
Meanwhile, such sister would readily believe a lie. If
the brother had began to blow an invisible trumpet of himself and began
to paint an unrealistic picture of his future for this same sister, she
would have believed everything.
If the brother had said something like
“making a saving that would enable him acquire a jeep in a month to
their wedding; and how he would tender a business proposal before an oil
company or come up with a business idea that could fetch him some
millions, which would afford him an opportunity of purchasing a duplex
apartment in Lekki part of Lagos, the sister would readily believe that
he had a future plan. She would take him for a very serious-minded
We have come to a strange generation where
lies sell heavily than the truth. We are now in a season when our young
sisters believe a man by what they see of him physically or how sweetly
he could run his mouth by saying big and boastful plans and not by what
they spiritually perceive of him. This is a season when, it is the way
you package yourself that many sisters take you, even if the fine shirts
and suits with shoes were borrowed to be returned later.
MANY, NOT ALL. MANY OF OUR SISTERS LOVE TO BELIEVE IN LIES TODAY.
Some sisters’ choice of who to marry would depend on where the man is
working: Bank?, Oil and Gas? Real Estate? Insurance? Constructions? And
some sisters’ readiness to consider a proposal rests on the family
status of the man who proposed: is the family rich and wealthy? Are they
based in US or Canada or Germany or Asian nations? Famous and
Today, a lot of brothers love to live on lies and
falsehood, because this is what many sisters want. I once read on the What-sap page of a young brother in Christ whom I happened to know. He
wrote under his name, CEO of a Motivational and Purpose Group company
and under this are about two or three website of his Motivational
Purpose company. In one of his write-ups, I read where he said: One day,
as I was coming from my office, I saw…..”
When I read that, I
wondered which office he was talking about, because, I knew him to be
working as a shop attendant or sales man in a shop. I look at the
picture he posted in his profile, he dressed up like a Director of a
corporate organization, but he is a sales boy working in a shop. These
are the type of lies many of our sisters love to hear before they could
consider a proposal.
What does the Bible say about responding to marriage proposals:
Proverbs 3:5-6 NKJV
 Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
 In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.
A christian lady who would have a great future and pleasant home would
commit her ways, the proposals into the Lord’s hand. I THINK THIS IS THE
ACTUAL SOURCE OF THE PROBLEM: MANY SISTERS CAN’T WAIT BEFORE THE LORD
TO KNOW THE MIND OF GOD CONCERNING WHO TO MARRY AGAIN.
ARE GUIDED INTO MAKING THEIR MARITAL CHOICES BASED ON THE PHYSICAL
APPEARANCE OR MATERIAL OR FINANCIAL POSSESSIONS OF THE MAN, AND NOT ON
THE LEADING AND CONVICTIONS OF THE LORD THEIR GOD.
If Sis Gloria
were to consider my physical, material and financial possessions when I
proposed to her, I would have been outrightly disqualified, because I
had nothing but the burning visions to evangelize the world through
Drama ministry. And if She were to consider my proposal based on my
future plans or projections, she would never have considered me,
because, I had no financial, material or physical future plan or
projections at that time, but was only armed with evangelistic visions
of the work of God.
And what are the unpleasant results of all
these fake future plans and projections: because no life is secure
except the ones hidden in Christ and entrusted in His care. Many of
these future plans and projections flopped and they are castles built
with sea-sand on a sea-shore, they crumbled fast when the foundation is
not laid on the leading of Christ and the home is set on fake
foundations and false projections.
The banking industry is not what it
used to be. The oil and gas industry is no longer like before.
Considerations of your response to a proposal should never be based on
anything physical or materials, but Godly leading and convictions after a
lot of heart-searching prayers and humble waiting upon the Lord to know
His heart on the man who proposed.
ONLY THE LORD GOD KNOWS THE
FUTURE. THE BROTHER WORKING IN A BANK OR OCUPPYING A MANAGERIAL SEAT
TODAY MAY BE DEMOTED BY CIRCUMSTANCES AND NEGATIVE SITUATIONS TOMORROW.
AND THE MAN WHO HAS NOTHING NOW MAY BE ON HIS WAY TO THE TOP VERY SOON.
So, physical or material status should never be paramount in
considering marriage proposals, but the voice of the Lord who knows
tomorrow. If you desire a peaceful home and fruitful marriage that will
afford you the opportunity to be ministerially fulfilled, don’t let any
physical, material or financial things give you your husband, let the
spirit of the Lord lead and convince you of who to marry.
You are blessed,