Actor Sholagbade Mustapha tells why he parted ways with his Baby Mama 6 Months after she had his son

few weeks ago, the news broke that all is not well with star actor,
Sholagbade Mustapha otherwise known as Lolade Mustapha as his long time
romance with his baby mama, Dewunmi Fatai who is also an upcoming
actress and make-up artiste crashed exactly six months after they got
their first baby.

According to reports, the 2 entertainers used to be
best of friends until late 2015 when the news broke that Dewunmi has
been impregnated by her best friend Lolade. Being a responsible man,
Mustapha gladly took responsibility of the pregnancy. After the baby (a
boy) was delivered in June 2016, the actor, we learnt, was making plans
underground to hold a nikkai wedding with her before things fell apart
between them. 
However, City People’s GBOLAHAN ADETAYO spoke with the
Abeokuta, Ogun State-born actor where he revealed to us what led to the
sudden separation between him and his wife. Excerpts:
What really happened between you and your baby mama?
I have been hearing people calling her my wife which is not true. We
are not married yet, she just got a baby for me whom I can’t deny but
nothing else is attach to it. She was a good friend to me before the
issue of the pregnancy set in and as a responsible man, I summoned the
courage to see it as my cross and I decided to take it. She is a good
friend and a good colleague. From the start, we were just friends but
along the line the baby came in. Later, I foresaw it that the
relationship may lead to a good place and I cautioned myself. When the
issue of the pregnancy came up, it was a shock because we were not in
good term because weren’t talking for months but I accepted my fate.
Later on, I made up my mind to go for her and marry her but as the
popular Yoruba adage has it, “Eyan ti Antori e Gbawe Ti o J’san”
literarily in other words, means she is not worth it. I wanted to make
things work out between us but she is not ready. I wanted to marry her
but there are things she does which I don’t appreciate and I called her
attention to it. I believe if there is true love we should be able to
iron out thing among ourselves.
Why did you now change your plans to marry her again?
we were yet to start the planning neither did we cancel anything, my
mother wanted me to marry her and due to what my mum was hearing about
her, she wanted to change her mind and I made my mum understand that she
shouldn’t listen to what people are saying about her. I said Dewunmi is
a good person. I tried to protect her image in the presence of my
family members but unfortunately, she revealed her real person to my mum
herself.  Yet, that didn’t stop me from holding the Nikkai wedding with
her but she was rude to my mum not once or twice in my presence and
this got me upset before I laid my hands off her. I can’t say it all but
that was the height of all. I believe we are not compatible; God only
wanted a child between us. After the child, I got carried away with the
love I had for the baby but she unfortunately used her hand to kill the
love I had for her in my heart due to her character and she is not read
to change and I can’t marry such person.
Apart from being rude your mum, is there any other things that changed your mind?
found out that she didn’t have true love for me and she only wanted a
child and now she has accomplished her mission. I don’t know her plans
about the child or what I can bring out as what she wanted from me
before the baby came. But when the child stuff came up she changed her
attitude towards me. She started denting my image all around and people
do tell me. When I confronted her, she denied it and I later found out
that all they said are real. She did the same to two of my family
friends which nearly split us. After the whole thing, I said before she
ruins my life, I should let her be while I also stay on my own. I will
give all it takes to bring up my child but as for his mum, it’s over
between us. I didn’t sit her down to tell her this but I made my
decision in silence.
Did you catch her with another man while you were dating?
didn’t but there was a time we fought before the baby came, and when we
reconciled. I asked her if she has found a man and she was like I
shouldn’t bother and I am a kind of person who trusts and falls in love
easily but once the person messes up, I will never look back. Nobody can
change my mind again, I can only listen to you but what I will do is
within me. Her stress was too much for me which I couldn’t take any
more. After the baby, I learnt she has gotten another boy friend which
is none of my business because she her life to live. As far as my son is
okay, I am fine. She will eventually marry someone someday. The baby is
6 month, this December. At a time, I told her to stop posting the
photos of my son on social media or parties and her response was what is
my business with that, she said she can take my son to her own
boyfriend’s house! I was shocked but it is normal. It’s just that it is
too early to start doing such when our child is not even up to 6 months.
We learnt that you guy were staying together, how factual is that?
is true, when she was pregnant, I was catering for her despite the fact
that we didn’t have a smooth relationship because there were lots of
fights and quarrels. She rained curses on me a lot which I still have
some evidence of that at hand. I prayed to God that if it’s true that I
related with her with one mind, her curses shouldn’t have an impact in
my life and I thank God for that. After the 41 days, she wasn’t calling
and that passed a message. I also didn’t call her because I have sealed
up my mind but a real woman keeps her home. After all, they claim to own
the house. We stayed together for that period she was pregnant. As a
responsible man, I did that to stay with her till she delivered. Till
date I am still taking care of my child but I don’t have interest in his
mum again. I can say it all because it will look like I am exposing my
baby mama which I won’t do. So, just let me stop here.

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