‘I slept with my landlord to feed my husband and kids during lockdown’ – Woman cries
A Nigerian woman has taken to popular Facebook counselor, Vivian Valerian Raphaels to open on on what she did to feed her family during the lockdown.
According to her, she slept with her landlord to feed her husband and children.
She wrote;
“Good evening ma. Hide my id please. My marriage is 10 years with 3 kids. My husband is 44years, 32 years. I beg you all dont blame me much😭😭😭😭. I just needed solutions on how to help myself, because I have started hating myself. My husband lost his job last 2 years and since then, I have been feeding the house with my salary😭😭😭😭. I did something I never wanted to do on this Corona period. I dont have any money to cook anything at home and no one to talk to, no water for my children to drink. We started drinking borehole water. I kept putting my account number on madam Cynthia give away post but I wasn’t lucky at all. Our land lord have been making advances at me for long and I ignored him. My parents look up to me for help and I didnt even give them anything at all. Me and my family stayed two days without anything and I left to ask my landlord for money to see if he can help me. All my neighbors I went to for help, nobody gave me anything. I lied to my husband let me go and see my brothers friend to know if she can help us. My landlord wife and kids stay abroad.
He lives two houses away from us. When I got to his place, he brought up the topic again and I told him that I cant do it, he promised to give me 20k free and some provisions. I know what I did is wrong and my conscience is killing me badly. I cant watch my three children cry anymore and I gave in and he refused he wont use protection. I have been asking God to forgive me. If they paid us in school where I teach before discharging us I wont have fallen into such. I am a shadow of myself now ma.
Three days ago, our compound people had meeting with him. Nepa people came to cut our light because of old bill we didnt settle. If you see the way he humiliated my husband because he gave his own suggestions, because he knows our situation😭😭😭😭😭I covered my face in shame. I wish I never did what I did. My husband is not on social media. Please help me post for advise.”
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Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 10:59 am
I think you have a. Coinscience , you should have keep. This to yourself but you let people know.. this is between you ,God and your husband. Just call your husband tell bm the truth ask him to forgive you and move on but dont Try such again.
Ekakiti Anthony
May 6, 2020 at 11:08 am
Is left alone with God to Judge but meanwhile is a shame to federal government after selling oil for over 60years cannot conveniently feed citizens for 2weeks
Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 3:10 pm
You have really done evil. Look for someone that your husband respect very well probably men of God, go with him confess your sin and ask for forgiveness. I believe he will understand why you did it.
Johnson Okoro
May 7, 2020 at 5:40 am
Good morning, woman it’s not easy but God is still in control Satan always use different method to get usis painful anyway you have committed a sin already confess to your husband so that your mind would be free but excuses of yours are not justifiable please do not try it in your life time I pray with you for forgiveness
Nenpy luk
May 6, 2020 at 11:11 am
My advice to is, God is a mercyful God,tell your husband all that happened,then seek for forgiveness from him and God,i know is not easy,but God is there for you,1john 3-end,may his grace speak for you thanks
Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 11:12 am
Try and relocate with ur family
Ekakiti Anthony
May 6, 2020 at 11:12 am
Is left alone with God to Judge but main while is a shame to federal government after selling oil for over 60years cannot conveniently feed citizens for 2weeks
Nenpy luk
May 6, 2020 at 11:14 am
My advice to is, God is a mercyful God,tell your husband all that happened,then seek for forgiveness from him and God,i know is not easy,but God is there for you,1john 1:8-9,may his grace speak for you thanks
Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 11:44 am
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There is know sin Jesus can not forgive don’t kill ur self
David mmaduabuchi
May 6, 2020 at 11:47 am
My dear I kn you have done what is not good all you have do is tell your husband if is a good fearing man he will stand and forgive but don’t fall into such victim next time no matter the circumstance
Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 12:09 pm
You did what you did for yourself not for you family, now tell me after using the 20k he gave you and the lockdown is still on what will you do? You will probably go back to him for more help and in return you will submit as well or maybe you will look for help from another person in same manner, my sister you see it takes mind for a married woman to sleep with another man in the name of help, because once she start doing that, it will not be easy for her stop. Since you have realizes yourself early, my kind opinion is you should just pray to God for forgiveness there absolutely nothing human being can do for you
Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 9:00 pm
Since he has been making advances to you before this time for you to meet him for money yes you have interest doing what you did with him you should I informed your husband before going to the Man and if he insists to do anything like that you should let your husband know by falling for him that means you have mind to do it should you get infected in the process whose advise will cure you so don’t look for what is already in your hand
Goodwin John
May 6, 2020 at 2:14 pm
My dear please let him know of what you did, ask him to forgive you, and also ask God forgiveness never you try it again.
Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 2:31 pm
Gather yourself together my sister the condition that led you to adultry is bigger than you .Always build your mind against that so that you will be able to overcome it think of another source of income cheer up God is merciful approach him he will forgive you
Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 2:52 pm
always remember Allah when u are in difficult situation and he will remember u
Chizzy
May 6, 2020 at 2:55 pm
Na WA oh
It is well Biko
Oluwaseun Orebanwo
May 6, 2020 at 3:02 pm
It is not yours faults, either anyone blame ur husband.I blame situation of this country.well God will surely forgive you don’t go back again.
Enoch
May 6, 2020 at 3:11 pm
You have really done evil. Look for someone that your husband respect very well probably men of God, go with him confess your sin and ask for forgiveness. I believe he will understand why you did it.
Bro. Daniel
May 6, 2020 at 3:11 pm
ma, as u hv cried out nd accepted.ur wrong God will surely 4giv, buh u will hv to confess to ur husband nd both of u shuld meet God on ur knees, i bliv God will hear u nd heal ur hrt,buh it shuld nt b repeated nd always look to God 4 hlp cause He said cursed is a man dat put his trust in anoda man,God gav u d children nd He is aware of d present situation,turn to Him nd He will supply ur need. God bless nd heal ur hrt ma.
Oluchi Ezennaya
May 6, 2020 at 4:00 pm
Hmmm my sister is not easy, confront your husband beg him and ask God to forgive you,and don’t repeat the same mistake, to sale your self for any reason is not worth it
Charles Freeman
May 7, 2020 at 11:50 pm
Please madam..ask God to forgive u …secondly tell ur husband…i know it will be hard …two things are involved…u have to take which ever one that comes up after ur confession to ur husband…at least u will be free from the kama of infedelity…infidelity is a killer machine…i have seen it kill in many homes where the wife cheats her husband…and thereafter if they go cook for the same husband after the act…u find out that it is either the man will just die strangely from unknown cause…but then…if u confess…like i said…just take what ever that happens thereafter as the will of God…at least u will feel releived…only two things will happen after ur confession to him…is either he ask u to leave his house ..or let it go…by allowing u to stay put…at least he will be proud of u having the good conscience to tell him and also doing him a favour of not cutting short of his life…because..to tell u the truth…infidelity by a woman in marriage…cuts short of a mans life…it is a looming disaster that eats up a mans life like a cankerworm. Pray before u tell your husband and ask the holy spirit to calm him down not to make him take uneasy decision that can end the marriage..May God guide u and give u understanding
Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 4:02 pm
it a pity life is not fair to someone sometimes but deed has been done there is nothing u can do now only ask God for forgiveness telling ur husband will not sound too good I will advice u people to pack away from that compound because as long as u are still there he will come back again as it stand now he sees ur husband as nothing pls leave that compound even thou is to go to ur village better pack out the down fall of a man is not the end of his life ur husband will still rise again.
Progress
May 6, 2020 at 4:04 pm
This post really hurting me badly I wished I can get in contact with you just to help in anyway to your husband just for this not to happen again meanwhile don’t tell your husband it hurt ok just pray over it things will get better
Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 4:04 pm
it a pity life is not fair to someone sometimes but deed has been done there is nothing u can do now only ask God for forgiveness telling ur husband will not sound too good I will advice u people to pack away from that compound because as long as u are still there he will come back again as it stand now he sees ur husband as nothing pls leave that compound even thou is to go to ur village better pack out the down fall of a man is not the end of his life ur husband will still rise again.
Bape
May 6, 2020 at 4:30 pm
God will for give you if you confessed to your husband
Uwamusi Paul
May 6, 2020 at 7:28 pm
It really hurts me so much as it sounds to my hear I feel pain ?
What happened has already happened don’t tell your husband
But confessed your sin before God and he will have mercy on you
Just look money and park out from that house to somewhere else
The down fell off a man is never the end of his life.i will love to help but how can I reach you
Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 4:38 pm
Osasumwen eboh don’t try it again please May Jehovah for gi
Anonymous
May 6, 2020 at 4:41 pm
Too bad, u should ask ur relatives for assistance, I know things are thought for every body, but I’m sure they may help
Omoni
May 6, 2020 at 4:57 pm
Though it’s not easy but u HV to erasa it from mind and move on in life. I believe Almighty God knows your mind and will bless you and your family.
david mohyaki
May 6, 2020 at 5:01 pm
I play your husband should understand you,but some one have to pay for the innocent blood ,another have sheard,that landlord must pay deary,he lwill ive to see it happening in his own eyes,today you are forgiven, that’s what Jesus said.. it’s not wish.,even those who have made you to go against your will,shall pay.. ….
Prince
May 6, 2020 at 8:10 pm
You couldn’t have fallen to his antics , sex is not something u should indulge in just anyhow it will be very difficult to stop having sex with him now based on ur condition u are untangled my sympathy
Akintoye Oluwaseun
May 6, 2020 at 8:58 pm
Please i beg you with the name of almighty God don’t tell your husband if you still love him, because if you tell him, igbonse kekere eti awo gbegiri you ba kuro okan le kuro, ask God for forgiveness and don’t do it again.
Anonymous
May 7, 2020 at 6:39 am
btw you and god observe one day fast explain to god as you presented it now our God is a merciful one,free your mind be prayerful bcos that money will soon finish,shalom
Paul
May 7, 2020 at 2:14 am
Woman your confession don’t seem like someone who is really ashamed of her act rather you are trying to justified your action and want people to sympathy with you. I put it to you that you do have a choice what you did you didn’t just considered it that day rather you only got the right opportunity to pull the trigger.
You sold the dignity of your husband for 20k and provision but let me ask you has that solve your problem?
So you can see why I said you have choice but you choose the option you took.
Secondly I put it to you that it is your nature because if is not you will not go for temporary solution and even lasting damage.
My advise to you is first confess to God sincerely and following the leading of the Holy Spirit if you have it to confess to your husband and from now on make God your last bus stop anything he didn’t give you know you don’t need it. But if it food He will always provide if you depend on him. You messed up because you depend on human.
Also message to your husband and other men out there that loose their job, please don’t hide under this excuses and put your wives under unnecessary pressure please if you don’t have job humble yourself to do something Lowe that can bring in food for your family. Thanks.
Cecilia Bonat
May 7, 2020 at 7:35 am
Habba, don’t say that to her. Only God knows yours
Mrs Helen Mbonye
May 7, 2020 at 3:57 am
You should not judge in order for you not to be judged because most of us have done even worst then this but still hide themt for those judging her. Madam the best thing is what you have just done now which is having a repented heart. Our God is a merciful God, all u need to do is ask God for Mercy, then go back to that your landlord and tell him that what happened between the two of u was the worst mistake ever which will never repeat itself, and that shouldn’t in anyway make him look down on u or husband because we all make mistake but the most important thing is to correct it, then leave at once, that will make him know that you still have yourself esteemed and respect for your husband, then relocate that place as soon as possible. Give it some time before telling your husband because seeing you and the landlord in the same compound it won’t be easy for him to forgive and also remember to go for check-up to be sure you are free from the unprotected sex
Anietie ndu
May 7, 2020 at 4:23 am
Shy nobody can judge this situation ask God to revealed you what to do.
Ken
May 7, 2020 at 6:54 am
It is so funny for people to say you should tell your husband. I doubt if you know that he may not be happy to make love with you again?
And if he does, he may not be able to enjoy you again because each time he is on you, he will remember and all his excitement will go!
Pray to God and let your mind be at rest.
But pack out of the house when you can afford to.
Don’t kill yourself with worry please.
You did not do it from your mind.
Don’t listen to advise to tell him.
He may even divorce you.
Don’t ruin your marriage with a wrong
Anonymous
May 7, 2020 at 8:14 am
I pity you and ur condition,first of don’t ever try to tell ur husband it will reduce trust in ur marriage and when things normal for him he will retaliate directly or indirectly bcoz he is human being ,ask God forgiveness remember ur in time of easy to remember u in time of hard
Cecilia Bonat
May 7, 2020 at 7:32 am
God never leaves his people, In whatever situation you find yourself, sacrifice yourself for death and you’ll see that God will appear in a way you don’t expect
Taiwo J
May 7, 2020 at 8:11 am
This is rather unfortunate. There is no excuse for anyone to do such a thing but this is what we have been saying that government should bring palliative closer to people through CDA chairs after all they know how to use CDAs in collecting levies from the people. God have mercy.
Anonymous
May 7, 2020 at 8:15 am
I pity you and ur condition,first of don’t ever try to tell ur husband it will reduce trust in ur marriage and when things normal for him he will retaliate directly or indirectly bcoz he is human being ,ask God forgiveness remember ur in time of easy to remember u in time of hard
Kabiru yusuf
May 7, 2020 at 12:39 pm
In my onw bilive only god is pavet. Nd I believe that if see did it intetioly see will not espoused are slif. Only god can gorge. Nn forgive.wat see need is ask 4 4gifnes. From d husband. Nd d lallourd make e go to d husband nd tell him wat.e did to is wife.b cos if d man no 4 gives. God we no. 4 give him. Even dou .e give are #1000000..(B cos e no d husband. U no need to darmage a family. In name of help.)
Anonymous
May 7, 2020 at 2:08 pm
I blame the wicked landlord that can not help a sister in need God will judge him
Ibrahim Hassan
May 7, 2020 at 5:34 pm
On my view
Don’t ever let your husband know what happened at all,but you have to be caution for the future because this has being past my advice here is pray for God to erase your foul
Wishing you all the best and blessing for everything you intended
Zolarranky
May 7, 2020 at 9:02 pm
God has already forgive you but don’t tell your husband but you need to relocate and never do that again.You are a good wife at least supporting the family in trying time God will replenish your loss in Jesus name
Anonymous
May 11, 2020 at 11:59 am
Hmm what a pity lady! My advice to you is that GOD ALMIGHTY is not forgivng the mistake you did to some one as per as the person is alive go and seek for his forgiveness after that ask the LORD to forgive you