I was raised by a widow, Emeka Ugwuonye of DPA explains why he fights for women

Popular Human rights lawyer, Emeka Ugwuonye of Due Process Advocate (DPA) has explained why he always stands for women!

The Enugu born lawyer revealed that he lost his father and his widowed mother single handedly raised him and his six siblings.
He also reveled that his mother who never passed through primary education, sent all of them to the university.
He wrote:


I was raised by a widow. Ebemma is her nickname. I was the first child.
Growing up, Ebemma and I were more like an elder sister and younger
brother, though she was my mother, because she was only 18 years older
than I.
As a widow in Igbo land, Ebemma suffered persecution and
harassment just because she was a woman and a widow. I saw it first
But despite all that, Ebemma stayed strong. She stayed
focused. She stayed smart. She was able to train her 7 children to
university level, making her the first parent in my town whose children
are all graduates. Ebemma is also the first parent in my place that has
two lawyers, one medical doctor and engineer as her children. She was
also the first widow in Enugu State to train her son at Harvard Law
School. Yet, she did not go beyond primary school. No other parent
achieved this feat in my state, I would assume.
Ebemma never
lived in the city until I was already in America. Now, she is an
American citizen and she voted for Hilary Clinton. Though she never
earned salary in her life, as such, she now earns social security
benefits as a senior citizen of America, in the amount of over $1000 per
In case you forgot, Ebemma is a woman. So, can you
understand how I feel when you try to tell me that women are not as good
as men or that they cannot lead a family? Can you understand how I feel
when you beat a woman?: In fact, each time you beat a woman, I see you
as someone beating a daughter of Ebemma. I feel like “killing” you. The
fact that I was too young to help Ebemma when she was persecuted causes
me to want to double your punishment if I catch you beating or
persecuting a woman.
When I was young, I promised Ebemma that if
I grew up, I would protect her from all gender-based persecution. But
when I finally grew up, nobody dares persecute Ebemma. They now all call
her Mama, even people older than her. Since nobody is persecuting her
now, I am searching around town for any man persecuting any woman. I
will see Ebemma in such woman and I will come after him. Even if that is
the only thing I achieved in this world, I want to make sure that
nobody can persecute Ebemma’s daughters.
So, now that you
understand me, I think we are settled. Don’t beat your wife or maltreat a
woman just because she is a woman. If you do so, you have to prepare to
deal with me. And always know that I will always have the ability to
cause you a lot of trouble – whether I am “disbarred” or not. In fact, I
will be more deadly if I were to be disbarred, because in that case, I
will not come after you with the law. I will come with “guns”.
By Emeka Ugwuonye, writing as Emeka, not as Founder of anything.
Because of her level of education, Ebemma does not understand that men
and women should be equal. Despite her own experience, she still
believes that men are superior. That is the irony. If I were to tell
Ebemma that men and women should be equal, Ebemma will quote the Bible
to me to suggest that men are superior to women. I would smile and leave
her alone. She is Ebemma and for me she is always right, at least until
I leave her presence.
The question is not whether
Ebemma is great or whether she is good. Remember that I don’t need any
proof of that. The question is whether the persecution of women or the
claim that women are inferior to men is true. I only used Ebemma as an
example of the women. I want us to focus on the women and the injustices
meted out against them. The question is whether women could be head of
Ebemma taught me everything. She taught me
how to cook. She taught me how to farm. She taught me the most important
things I know. She taught me how to show empathy for those who are not
so lucky or those in pain. I can cook any food that a Nigerian can cook
(plus the ones that an average Nigerian doesn’t cook). Because I was the
first child, I also learned how to babysit infants because I baby-sat
my brothers.

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