A couple of days ago, actor Kalu Ikeagwu and make up artiste Ijeoma Eze’s romantic prewedding photos hit the blogosphere (HERE).
In this exclusive chat with Kemi Filani Blog, the handsome actor who will quit the bachelorhood on the 25th of June in Enugu talks about his upcoming wedding, how he met and fell in love with Ijeoma, why he is just settling down and more.
You know I am a very private person and I don’t want a lot of crowd.
Many would love to know why it’s a kind of a secret or why there is not so much noise about it?
It’s not a secret, some blogs have written about it. I don’t like noise and for me the most important thing is the marriage itself. The wedding is just to say to everybody that before God and man that I am married to this person. The main thing is the marriage and it matters a lot where I am from.
So how you feel? Do you feel excited or just there? Men tend not to excited about wedding… so we would love to know if it’s the same with you…
I am excited about my marriage, I just there about my wedding.
Not because of the money. I told God to take care of how the money for the expenses comes. Especially at this time when everything is on the increase. My friends call and ask how we are going to cope with a basket of tomato at that high price. I know God will take care of how those will come. The good thing about the wedding preparation is that I am seeing the beauty of the person I am getting married to through this. I mean she is not getting stressed and she is working very hard. She is a very reliable person. She is doing most of the work for our wedding
Do you see yourself growing very old, like up to using a walking stick with her?
Growing old, yes, but I don’t know about walking stick. I don’t think I want to see myself going about with a walking stick.
You don’t wish to use a walking stick when you are like 95 years old?
I told God I want maintain my vigor, what I mean by vigor is being about to satisfy my wife even when I am 90. I don’t want to be walking frail kind of old.
Is that even possible..
Oh, It’s possible, watch me. I will be the first person. Not using a walking stick means I will be erect and I will be able to trot if not am not able to jug
Some of your fans were expecting that you would end up with an actress?
Are you saying my wife is not beautiful? She is more beautiful than I am.
I didn’t mean that, I just meant that some people were expecting that you would have married an actress.
Someone asked me that question before. He asked who would I marry? Would I marry an actress? And I said if that is the person for me, I would marry an actress. The person I am getting married to is from the entertainment industry as well. She is a make-up artiste amongst other things that she does. I got to a point in my life where I was trying to get the perfect person for me. I found out that maybe I was the problem and not the women. Because all the women I dated before were very wonderful women. They had good character. I got to a point where I told God to make a choice for me because I recognised that I am flawed as a human being. I had two conditions that I cannot compromise on. First, the person has to love God more than I do and the second is that I want a companion throughout my years, whether she is beautiful or ugly, local or sophisticated; thin or fat, I did not care. All I wanted was a companion that I will be happy with and God answered my prayers.
Do you know the colours of the day for your big day?
I know one. Blue and I think there will be red somewhere. God I am going to be killed. Please forgive me but I am not sure. Am hardly interested in those things.
How does it feel giving up your bachelor life?
That is one of the reason why I am not married for quite a while. I have been on my own since I was nine years old. I was in boarding school so I learned to be on my own from that time upwards. I am sort of introverted. My whole world exists in my head. So my bachelor hood was the toughest thing for me to give up.
So you were scared of inviting someone into your life?
Something like that, like inviting someone to take over my life and space.
Are you that Romantic?
I wouldn’t call it being romantic. I call it what the other person would like. I don’t see myself as a romantic person.
Others will call it being romantic…
When you say romantic, I get scared. Like ‘Oh my God I have to get down on my knees, buy flowers everyday and all that. It’s scary am not that person.
So, how did you propose?
I told you I am not a Romantic person. I proposed indirectly and under pressure.
We would love to know the details…
I proposed indirectly like I said earlier and I put her on the spot. Immediately it occurred to me that I cannot let her go, that she is a keeper and someone I cannot afford to loose. At my uncles funeral, when we were about to start the funeral. I was speaking with one of my uncles when she came to me to collect my car key and I held her by the waist and told my uncle that she is the one I want to marry. He looked at me and said, “are you sure? I said I was very sure. He turned to her and asked her if I was her choice and she shyly said Yes.
Some may see that as a boring way to propose … then did you just wake up the next day and just called her up to take her ring?
I can only clear my throat to this question.
We know you are not a shy person because you are always in front of a camera, so we would love to know why you proposed like that…
Who said so. I am very shy when it comes to these kind of things. That was very manipulative of me because I chose to kill two birds with a stone. I wanted to tell my uncle how serious I was and I also wanted her to say how serious she is about me in front of my uncle. To me that was more important than any romantic proposal. I am not romantic. I am boring if that’s how you and many others see me. No apologies whatsoever. I may learn in the marriage. She is not that Romantic herself.
Are sure? Don’t you think she may be shy as well..
Yes she is a little shy and yes she loves being pampered.
Since you are getting married, are there some roles you will give up acting?
I have a step daughter and I keep asking my wife-to-be which of my movies has she seen. If it’s the one I was a bad guy or the ones where I am a good guy. So I thought about this question you just asked and I realized that I am like a role model to my family. My family would have to inform the roles I take on from now wards. I might not be going naked in any movies anytime soon. I don’t think I will give up being a bad guy in movies so far as it teaches something. But if will be vulgar, I would hands off
You said you have a step daughter?
Yes, Ijeoma has a daughter so I do have a step daughter.
Would you love to have a baby immediately after marriage?
No, I will love to enjoy my wife before the babies start coming.
How many babies do you want? Would you like to have a full house?
What? A full house?
I only want to change pampers only once or two times. I love my quiet but I can mature and manage with two. Two children are enough.
Another fear I have about having my own children is that they might take my personality.
We wish the soon-to-wed beautiful couple a happy married life in advance!