A Facebook user, Olumide Glowville, has revealed what he feels a relationship ought to be like. In his post, he spoke of how being motivated by one’s partner is far better than good sex, vacations and money, because there are people who can provide better if given the chance.
Until your partner offers something more than the basics – Sex, money, movie dates, getaways – your relationship hasn’t exactly started!
I had this discussion with a colleague at work today, and this struck me.
A relationship is an exchange of value, not an exchange of basics.
So you are getting the best sex in the world; many other people can and will do that, if given a chance. That’s basic!
He is taking you on vacations and giving you the expensive things; so many rich guys will do the same on a higher scale, if they get a chance. It’s basic.
She cooks great meals, so what? A lot of women can cook better. He helps in the kitchen, great! But there are many guys who can do that as well. That’s basic too.
Most of the things we fawn about and pay more attention to in relationships are basic. We tend to undermine the more important things that require our attention.
Things like, does he/she motivate you to get better? Do they influence your life positively? Do they go out of their way to help you? Do they stand up for you anywhere? Do they protect you?
Most people are in a relationship where they enjoy things they can already do for themselves.
If your partner can’t talk sense to you, call a friend to help you when you need it, give you inner peace, freedom to aspire or just impact value into your life, you don’t have a serious relationship. You are just playmates!
Get you a partner that can offer something more than ordinary, something quite uncommon.
Sex, food, trips, and others are nice, but they aren’t invaluable, are they?
A Nigerian rapper, Keydar (Williams Anifowose), and two of his friends have died while returning from the graduation thanksgiving of their friend in Oyo State.
Keydar, a 200 Level student of the Federal University of Agriculture, Abeokuta, along with Khalifa, and Pyunz were invited by a lady named Dara to her thanksgiving at Ajayi Crowther University.
On their way back, their vehicle got involved in an accident which led to the death of everyone, except Pyunz who is said to be currently battling for his life at a hospital.
Concerning the kind of life lived by one of the deceased name Khalifa, a source who was close to him dropped a comment on social media:
''Khalifa or whatever u call him cos I...
22 passengers who were on their way to Lagos Island in a Volkswagen commercial bus have survived a terrible accident which would have gotten them drowned in the lagoon. The bus which somersaulted on the third mainland bridge was stopped from falling into the lagoon by the bridge's crash barrier.
Rapid Response Squad tweeted:
''Crash Barrier Saves 22 Passengers from Plunging into Lagos Lagoon The crash barrier on the 3rd Mainland Bridge around 6:30 a.m today prevented a loaded Volkswagen LT bus from landing in the Lagoon when it somersaulted on its way to the Island.''
Officers of the Rapid Response Squad also did their best in attending to the injured passengers using their first aid knowledge.
''@rrslagos767 and @lasemasocial who responded swiftly had...
Popular Nollywood actress, Chika Ike has hinted that she has fallen in love with someone! The beautiful sophisticated A-list actress who is known for her flamboyant/luxury lifestyle and classy dress sense hinted this via her Instagram page without giving details as to whom the lucky man is
Sharing a pool photo of herself, Actress Chika Ike who has been enjoying a vacation and keeping her followers on social media updated captioned the photo:
"You glow differently when you’re in love . Am I right? ??"
In an earlier post, she also wrote: "My love for you is so deep that the Ocean is jealous ??"
The delectable actress has not been so lucky with men and relationships...