Nike Adeyemi explains why Women are envious, jealous of Pastors’ Wives

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Married to Sam Adeyemi, Senior Pastor of the Daystar
Church Lagos, Nike Adeyemi, who just clocked 50 years lately, reflects
on life in the parsonage and how pastors’ wives cope with the challenge
of supporting their husbands’ ministries

Would you say that it’s been easier to make a success of your marriage because you are married to a pastor?
I don’t know because when you get married, the success is not
determined by the fields you and your spouse are in. I think it’s about
two friends coming together and deciding that they want to grow together
for life and that is huge. One thing that my husband and I have in
common is that we love helping people, though maybe in slightly
different ways but many times too, in common ways. I am very hands-on
and he is also a giver and has a large heart. That is our weakness and
it keeps us growing and keeps our relationship aglow too. We are always
talking about people and God knows that it is such joy to help. I am
very happy to be married to a pastor.

How did he woo you?

He felt that there was something special about me, and of course, he
began to gravitate towards me and we became just friends. At that
point, I didn’t even think that he’d become my husband but at some point
in time, I knew that there was some serious chemistry going on and God
kept telling me to pay attention and that’s likely the person for me. I
paid attention and I liked the idea. In those days, it wasn’t a flashy
thing to marry a pastor and I was a corps member at that time in Lagos
because I deferred my youth service programme by a year. I was a member
of the church that he was pastoring. A year and a half after our
marriage, we moved out and started Daystar Christian Centre together. I
must tell you that marriage is serious work but it has also been fun at
the same time serving God with him and now, we are wiser and make out
time for ourselves. Sometimes, we are just ‘missing’ and you just don’t
see us in church or we are abroad. It’s still part of the ministry, but
when we are away, we are not only ministering, we are able to take out
time for each other. I can sometimes walk on the streets of a certain
city without anybody recognising us and that is bliss for us. Even
though we may have ministrations lined up, we have one or two days where
we are just all by ourselves, but here in Nigeria, we can hardly walk
on the road together or go and watch a movie together. In all, I’d say
I’ll do it all over again with him.

How would you describe your husband in three words?

My husband is independent, he is a firm thinker and very humble/simple.

Are there any differences between his life as a pastor and that of a husband/father?

There isn’t much difference because what you see is what you get. At
home, he is still that same simple and firm thinker. It’s just that at
home, he is more laid-back while in the ministry, he is more hands-on,
so if you don’t know my husband very well, you will think that he has a
choleric temperament because he loves knowledge and he must impart and
share it. You’ll also think that he is a workaholic. When we got
married, he came across as an ambitious man to me, but now, I know
better, that he is just passionate about what he does. The children are
very free with him and many times, they don’t see him as that pastor
high up there because he is very simple and he helps around the house;
especially if you ask him to. I also have to allow him to focus more to
be able to hear that message or write that sermon. We are always
studying at some point in time and I prefer short certification courses
and just finished one recently while he is studying for a PhD right now
and he’d be finishing this year. The last four years have been very busy
and I’ve had to bear with him, tolerate and, sometimes, understand the
non-availability of time.

What are some of the misconceptions women who are married to pastors have to deal with?

That’s a huge one. From the little that I know, some people think
that your life is all rosy because you are married to a pastor. They
think that everything is blissful because pastor makes them laugh on the
pulpit. He teaches them so much and they grow spiritually. The
misconception is that you are an angel and you should be as angelic as
your husband looks on the pulpit. If you have a pulpit ministry, they
judge your message and think that it is not as deep as pastor’s own.
Others resent the pastor’s wife because they wanted to be in her shoes
when the pastor was still single so, the resentment continues. There is
also envy and jealousy for no reason and some wives of pastors have also
become bitter because they now pay some women back in their own coin.
When a woman marries a pastor, people think that she is mature all of a
sudden. When I married my husband, we were both 25 years old and he is
just two months older than me but we’ve grown together. Other people
think that the pastor belongs to the church, while his wife should be at
home with the kids or they complain that she doesn’t dress well.
Sometimes, I just go and hang out with my friends, so that I can keep my
sanity in check and run away from the expectations of some people.
That’s why I love social media today because it is a huge platform for
me. My word to people who judge pastors’ wives is to let them be.


That moment when Omotola Ekeinde’s son got birthday wishes from Man. City and Liverpool!

Beautiful actress, and mother of 4, Omotola Jalade Ekeinde took to
her Instagram to celebrate her last son, Michael who apparently, turned
15 today.

The 39 year old actress revealed, that Michael was so elated after
his favorite clubs, Liverpool and Manchester City sent him birthday
wishes. She also shared the messages her son got from the club.

She wrote:

“Please Help me say a Hearty Happy birthday to my Baby. My last born
child mickyboy @michael_ekeinde who turns 15 Today.This footballer kid
is So happy as he got messages from his best team @liverpoolfc ! and
another from @mancity .. Love you kind sweet soul.”

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