man but he is not strong enough to satisfy his wife, Afusat in bed. His
inability has affected the peace once enjoyed in their Ajibose Street,
Agege, Lagos home.
Saturday Sun gathered that for over 13 years, the
51-year-old indigene of Obangade, Kogi State, has not gone more than one
round of sex with his wife, Afusat, a constant cause of quarrel in the
middle of the night. Sex is now a luxury for them. Anytime they are
going to have it, they have to plan it. The wife would have informed the
husband beforehand so that he would not stress himself during the day.
At the end of all preparations, Simpa will still not go more than one
round.
This has brought crisis into what once seems to be a happy union.
Afusat, 44, complains of not getting satisfaction every time they make
love. As a woman, she told Saturday Sun, she expects at least three rounds of sex from her husband.
“I expect my husband to be able to take me to orgasm whenever I wish
to make love to him. But no, that is not the case; instead he would stop
at one round breathing as if he just climbed a mountain. It is
unacceptable. But I understand his predicament,” Afusat stated.
Trouble started for the father of four when he had accident while on
duty at Glaxosmithkline, Ilupeju Lagos State. According to him, he was
injured above his pelvis and was operated upon. The operation from the
injury he claimed affected his performance as a man.
How I became partially impotent
Narrating his ordeal, Simpa, recalled how he went to work in May 2003
on morning shift as a security officer with his former employer. “That
day, I was on morning shift, to close work around 2pm. My supervisor,
Mr. Wilson Oyedele, who was on afternoon shift that day delayed me and
asked me to work with the people on afternoon shift because there were
few people working on afternoon shift”, he stated.
“I was told to work from 2pm and close by 5pm,” he continued, adding
“that day loading started around 5pm and the gate to the warehouse was
faulty to the extent that we used plank to suspend it when we open and
close it. I was in a hurry to go home because I did not inform my family
that I would be coming back late from work. The boy offloading was too
slow for my liking so I went to assist him, in the process I was hit by
the bad gate.”
His frustration
Simpa is in pain. He is not only suffering from his inability to
satisfy his wife but also from how a company he worked for, for 15 years
treated him after he sustained the injury. He was taken care of by the
company during his stay in the hospital but was laid off some months
later because he asked for compensation.
“In a place of work when an employee gets injured, they compensate
them , but they did not do that, I wrote a letter to management while I
was working there but my supervisor said that I am still working with
them and I want them to compensate me. He told them to put my name in
the retrenchment list in 2005
“When I went back to work on the 20th of June, after four months they
released the retrenchment list and told me that my service was no
longer needed, I went to meet them and they said that they wanted to
reduce the number of staff.”
Simpa said effort to get the hospital remove the iron attached to
his body has been futile since the hospital has not had any
communication from Glaxosmithkline to commence treatment on him.
Therefore, he resorted to taking painkillers and self-medication to
survive while waiting for the company.
“I have been to hospital but they refused to treat me. Even the human
resource officer that no longer works there told me that if I am not
given a letter, I would not be treated. I even went to meet the doctor
that operated on me at LUTH, but he told me to pay N5,000 before he
would attend to me or recommend drugs that I would take. What I have
been doing since then is to engage in one job or another then use the
money to buy Ampiclox , Vitamin C, Panadol and pain relieving drugs to
relieve the pains.”
His wife’s lamentation
If Afusat could turn back the hands of time, she would definitely
want those days that her husband was satisfying her sexual needs. Since
that is no longer possible, all she could do now is to complain and
bear it as her cross. Her words “I take solace in the fact that I
already had four children before the incident. If not so, I would not
have taken it easy with him. How can a man not have strength to do more
than one round. It is not good. If he finishes one round he would be
looking for sleep to regain strength.
“Several times, I have complained, even got angry with him despite
knowing what happened to him. Before the accident, he was agile and I
was always praying that no woman should have sex with him because he
knows how to satisfy a woman.”
According to her, she has tried all she could to improve her
husband’s condition. She has introduced him to local herb popularly
called ‘Afato’
“As a man of peace, he would console me and plead with me that things
will improve. I have tried to help him improve it. Sometimes I would
buy him drinks or tell him not to work much, yet it would always
resolve to the same thing,” she stated.
When Saturday Sun visited Glaxosmithkline to verify Simpa’s
claims, this reporter was directed to the company’s public relations
agent, one Mrs Omolara Shittu of Brooks and Blake. The agent asked the
reporter to send an email to her. The first mail was sent to her on
17th of June and the second one on July 2nd, but as at press time, no
response has come from her.