In this interview with SDK, OAP Freeze talks about why he chose to air his laundry on social media, how his marriage crashed, his two kids with ex-wife Ope and the new baby he welcomed weeks ago, the new woman in his life and much more.
Read excerpts below.
On bringing his accusations about his wife to social media:
I am not perfect, not even near, but I will not take blame for a crime I
didn’t commit and won’t allow my name to be destroyed by this woman.
Ope was raised by a single mother who had seven children from three
different fathers. Everyone discouraged the relationship pointing out
her mother’s situation and warning me that this might lead to a
character flaw in Ope but what did I know? I was in love. By the time I
understood the enormity of the damage done to her by her upbringing, it
was already too late and she was pregnant with our first child. I
decided to get married to Ope turning a deaf ear to numerous warnings of
the consequences of such an action.
Freeze and Ope
On his suspicions:
From the first year of marriage I started seeing her true character.
She talked without any respect whatsoever and would fight me and hurl
curses like a market woman, while saying to me “it is better I curse you
and hit you than for GOD to strike you!” My parents have been married
for 40years and I believe that divorce should never be an option. So I
endured the violence. Adultery is one of the most difficult things to
prove but if a married woman keeps late nights, has unwholesome friends,
comes home tipsy regularly and she makes calls to strange men at
ungodly hours within her husbands home eyebrows will definitely be
raised. There was this one time I went to the UK for work. I sent my
assistant with a cheque to my house at midnight and she wasn’t home, she
had dropped the kids with my sister and disappeared into the
night! What about the time she saved a mans number under her female
friends name sometime in 2007 and we had a huge fight about it, leading
me to almost end the marriage at that time. It has never been my
intention to call her out on social media and if you remember clearly I
avoided making any comment initially since it’s an embarrassing
situation for both of us and the children already, however she is
hellbent on destroying everything I stand for just to make herself look
good. This has left me with no other option than to speak the truth!
On when and how his marriage crashed:
My marriage crashed like 6 or 7 years ago. In her bid to have absolute
control Ope severed ties with my family. She created such a hostile
environment that my family avoided visiting as much as possible. In
order for me to have a happy home I had to do as she pleased or else all
hell would be let loose. I wasn’t the perfect husband myself making a
few mistakes here and there but I always believed we could work on our
issues if we stuck together. The straw that finally broke the camels
back for me was when she lashed out at my mother, attempting to slap her
in the presence of my father and I because my mother dared question her
coming home at 11.30pm leaving the children without dinner. To me that
was the highest form of insult a man could ever take and I felt I had
failed my family if that was the best daughter-in-law I could provide
for them. I still stayed on in the marriage for the sake of the kids but
my heart and soul had departed. Even after she packed out of our
matrimonial home I tried to send my sister after her to plead with her
just for the sake of the children but she refused. Like 6months before
she packed out she changed jobs to her present company Seadrill limited
without even informing me. I found out because her ID changed and up
until today I don’t know where that company is.
On his new family:
Yes I am in a relationship but let me squash the rumor. she is not an
older woman, she is a lot younger than I am and she does not have four
children. I didn’t start dating her until three or four months after Ope
deserted our matrimonial home leaving me in a severe state of
depression. She has been wonderful to me, gave me a shoulder to cry on
and picked me up from the mess I was in. My family adore her and her
family is really cool with me and I am praying to GOD that she will be
my last bus stop. Ope has prevented me from seeing my kids for over a
year now. I remember picking my son up from school last year and she
drove to my house with thugs in her car, barricaded my gate and started
screaming to attract the neighbours that I wanted to kidnap her son.
On closure on the whole issue:
Yes, I loved her but that was a very long time ago. Her destructive
spirit killed the love a long time ago. It grew to anger, hatred,
bitterness and my current state of indifference towards her. She had a
friend that was kicked out of her marriage because she was caught with
juju. This same friend made sure that she ended OPE’S marriage and I am
leaving that friend to GOD! I suffered so much in the hands of this
woman I was so depressed that I was almost suicidal. A friend of mine
advised me to go into sports to maintain my sanity but I absolutely
detest sports. The only sport I can tolerate is Formula1. I went to
watch a race and Oris watches were advertised so I bought one. I had
always loved watches but on a much smaller scale. I started with brands
like Oris, Tissot, Rado and Raymond Weil then I graduated to the bigger
dogs. I used to stay up all night researching on wristwatches and
searching for the best service centre etc What started as a hobby to
battle my depression has fast become my greatest passion!
On moving on:
I am over this relationship with Ope, I wish her all the best in life
as I have long moved on. I have an amazing woman in my life and a
couple of weeks ago we were blessed with an adorable son! I use this as a
medium to beg her to allow me access to our children something she has
totally denied me for over one year! She should be advised to be careful
with the kind of accusations she makes because they could ultimately be
damaging to the reputation of her children’s father. I never draw first
blood, I have always reacted to what she did never the other way round.
This is my closure, i don’t need any counseling.