is your chance to be celebrated for that one thing you cherish and have
by organizing an annual Miss Virginity Pageant. Though it hasn’t been
easy as the perception of people based on the topic is pretty sensitive,
that didn’t deter her. But how can she tell if they are truly virgins?
How did celebrating virgins come about?
At a point, I started thinking of our old people in this country,
so I published ‘Fragile Fit’, a magazine that was dealing with weak
limbs of the elderly. Alhaji Lateef Jakande loved it and said the
publication was even over due. As I was doing that, I dreamt 11 times
where I organised ‘Recognising and encouraging the virgins in Nigeria’.
That is how I started the project in 2007.
On how she acertains their virginity: A
gynaecologist, Dr. Naheem-Deen Ekemode, who has practised for more than
40 years, was doing that for us. Within a second, he will know whether
someone is a virgin or not but some parents started frowning about it.
But are there still virgins amongst ladies of marriageable age?
I have virgins even in my home. My own daughter got married as a
virgin at 29. There are many virgins in this country but they are shy to
come out because their wayward friends mock at them. They call them
fools because they want to spoil their lives before marriage and there
is nothing more interesting and good one would be proud of than keeping
one’s virginity. In fact, God loves it because I heard the voice several
times, urging me to go and encourage virgins and I will not stop it
till my demise.
Most men complain that marrying a virgin gives them
concern. To them, it is like relating with somebody who cannot satisfy
They are saying it because they are in doubt of the authenticity
of our claim that there are still virgins. They know that if they marry a
virgin, they have assurance that they are marrying somebody who has not
tampered with her womb or who has not contracted sexually transmitted
diseases. You cannot compare used engine with a brand new one. Men are
not realistic. All these they are talking that it is difficult to get
virgins is not true. Some men will use these girls, de-flower some of
them and at the end of the day, they will jilt them and run after
We are in year of 21st Century with internet associated sexual activities. How do we check that?
Our business is to encourage virginity, to wake up parents and
tell them to make a change in life of a girl in their hands. It is like
Sodom and Gomorrah. Men will do it and go free, although some of them
will contract virgins and won’t be able to impregnate their wife. Men
too should remain virgins till they marry. In pre-marital sex, men will
waste important children including presidents in their body before
What do you teach these girls?
How to keep away from the prying eyes of their uncles, teachers,
lecturers and friends. We will teach them how to minimise going to
places where they will put something in their drink and rape them.
But how long can one remain a virgin?
It is not good to remain a virgin till above 30 years. When you
are in your 20s, pray and ask God to give you a husband. Don’t go in the
late hours. I have a 21-year-old virgin living with me. I always advise
her to keep her virginity.
Have you ever been challenged because of this project?
I have got a lot of embarrassing questions and comments but I am not perturbed.
Some people sent me text messages and some of them called me and
said that I am crazy. One of them said, “Why are you blocking us from
enjoying the virgins God made available for us?”
What are the criteria for winning the first prize at the Miss Virginity Contest?
The intellectual prowess, legs, faces and carriage are parts of
the criteria. We are more interested in the beauty from inside so we
want to know how intelligent they are.
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