A Nigerian woman who was tricked into marriage, used and dumped has narrated her eye-opening story to SDK and you might learn a thing or two from it, enjoy!
I met him 8 years ago when I was posted to his office for my Industrial
Attachment. He was a nice boss and gradually we became friendly. He came
across to me as a man who was not happy and was struggling with issues.
With time, he confided in me that he had marital issues and his wife
was leaving him because they had been married for about 10 years without
children, the doctors had certified them okay but she was tired of
waiting and believed their destinies were not intertwined and they
should try other people as they were both not getting any younger.
felt really sad for him and tried to cheer him up the best I could till
my Industrial attachment came to an end and I left. About a year after
our paths crossed again, he told me he was single and asked me for a
relationship which I obliged. Everything was fast, he came with his
family to meet my parents and ask for my hand in marriage, we got
married and the kids came in quick succession, his job took him away a
lot of times, sometimes for weeks or even a month , he isn’t around.
he changed, he will complain about an irrelevant thing, if I try to
explain, he will get angry, call me a nag and leave the house,stay
incommunicado for weeks on end. Ha, I became an emotional wreck.
last year, I ran into an old colleague from his office and she gave me
the shocker of my life, my husband was still married to his wife, they
never separated, like me, she has 2 kids now, same age with mine just
four months difference, each time I got pregnant, she got pregnant too,
while I have 2 girls, she has a boy and a girl.
I confronted my
husband, he insulted me and told me to stop snooping on his wife and
kids that if anything happens to them, he will kill me. While she lives
in the highest brow area of Lagos with kids in a school that the school
fees can buy a good car, I live in the dungeons of Agege with my kids in
a school that combined the fees is not up to 100k. They travel round
the world at will, we have never even gone to Cotonou.
time the wife was ill, they both called to threaten me that if she
doesn’t get better, I will be done for. If her kids fall down, it’s me,
if they have fever, it’s me.
My husband doesn’t come home again but sends our upkeep peanuts regularly
I have become their common enemy. I am sad, I am pained, I know I
didn’t snatch anybody’s husband, I was simply deceived, used and dumped.
I have a strong feeling he did it all in collaboration with his wife. I
don’t deserve this at all. The man is 50, wife in her 40s while I’m
just 30. Wicked people. My God will judge them.
Yoruba movie star and single mum of two, Iyabo Ojo has just shared some tips for having a successful 2015 below:
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life; if they hadn't left, the positive ones wouldn't have had any space
to occupy in your life
Thank those friends who turned their backs at you when you needed them
the most; without them, you wouldn't know what true friendship is all
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