In a new interview with Yes Magazine, Gospel singer, Sammy Okposo explained why he didn’t marry Stella Damasus or any of his well known girlfriends.
ladies’ man, a playboy. Is Sammie truly one?
Ah! God forbid bad thing! (General laughter). In fact, like I said, I am
one of those people who like history. Because when you go back to history and
you start the story, then you progress and get to the present day. You can see
the progression and you can see the different junctions of changes a man’s life
has gone through.
single guy, pruuuu! He loves women, he doesn’t want to marry, he just wants to
play. And those were my days of youthful exuberance.
through that whole process so that when you build a home and a family, there is
nothing out there that has the capacity to come and even make you say you are
packing out of your house or to scatter your home or to come and start giving
your wife and your children trouble, because some of the guys who dive, and I’m
not saying that early marriage is bad; some people dive into it and they have
no experience of what the world is. They get in there and while they are
married, they start saying hey, like say I know, I for never marry o! Before
you know it, they have messed everything up.
meeting, bad PR out here and you are just messing up yourself. So, those days
of Sammie is a ladies’ man are gone. I am so happily married to the woman of my
dreams. In fact, it was my wedding anniversary on the 1st of July And I’m happy
that I did not marry before I got married, because I probably would have joined
all the headlines of crashed marriages in the entertainment industry.
and hottest babes in the industry. Now, when you see fine girls, what goes
through your mind and how do you avoid the temptation of going back to your old
My brother! You see, those days, we didn’t know better. We didn’t know better
and I have been able to get around wise mentors and wise counselors who have
used their own lives as experiences to teach me certain things. You know when
you are just moving by yourself, nobody advises you, there’s nobody you can go
to, to say please, what do I do? This, that, that, that is an issue.
must submit yourself to people who can pick up their phones and call you
and say Sammie, you are messing up, I need to see you right now; I heard
X, Y, Z, where are you? Come to my house right now or come to my office now?
And you will leave whatever you are doing, drive there.
life was going in a kind of crazy direction and I didn’t want it to end that
way. I had to do a re-think and put myself together and then somebody said you
know what, be accountable. When you are accountable to certain people and you
know that their eyes and their ears are on ground, they can hear anything, you
will behave yourself. Those things restrain you from doing certain things. So,
these people have taught me so many things that now you can look at beautiful women;
because if beautiful women was the problem, I waited and I married a beautiful
woman. So, it is not like when you go back home, what you are living with is
not beautiful enough.
abuse that is going to come. Like, look at his wife; you have this kind of
wife, what are you still looking for outside, if something is not worrying you?
So, I put myself under those kinds of checks and balances where people can
advise me. Even when I have issues, they will say no, this is how you handle it
and guess what? My wife is my best friend.
gliding and galloping (General laughter) – Kate Henshaw, Stella Damasus, Janet
Fateye, Gloria Ibru and so on. How were you able to cope during those days?
It was mad! It’s a crazy thing that I did then. The industry just swallowed me.
That’s the only way I can describe it because I was an up and coming
entertainment personality, I was involved in all the media events, all the
awards. They were calling me to be part of the theme songs, to do this, do that
and I said to myself, my God, this is the life! The kind of ladies that you
will not dare say good morning to; you don’t even have to say good morning; as
you are passing, they will just say hi and you begin to wonder: am i the one
they are waving at? Because I was in the limelight and I didn’t know how to
handle it; I entered it gbuaaaa! And I was like my God; is this what these
celebrities are dealing with? Where you don’t even have to say hello to a
So, I didn’t know what to do with it; I thought that was the life and the thing
just swallowed me and like you said, before you knew it, I was gliding and
galloping from relationship to relationship. It was crazy! I didn’t know
better. I didn’t know better, but I will balance that. I didn’t know better,
but somehow, I am grateful that I had to go through that. Because that is what
I appreciate now; because of what I have been through.
have gone through some things, that is when you look back and you say ah! That
was not a good experience. You will do all you can not to go through that
In fact, I say this and people sometimes think I am crazy – I don’t
regret anything! The Sammie Okposo you see today is a product of what
I’ve been through. So, my motto is if you go back memory lane in my life
to say okay, let us remove this, remove that, I don’t think what you
see today will be complete, because a pot of soup is a combination of
different ingredients and when you chop, you lick your hand and say kai!
This one is sweet. Because if they take out one of those ingredients;
if it was possible to take out one of those ingredients that’s causing
you to lick your fingers, trust me, you will not lick your finger.
Because it’s a combination, and by the time they remove anything, it
won’t be sweet again. So, the good, the bad, the ugly have produced the
Sammie Okposo that you see today. I don’t regret it.
Sweet! Sweet!! In fact, there was an article that said this is one
celebrity that we see at almost every event with his wife, and I decided
to do that deliberately because a lot of us think that we are too busy
to take our wives to events and when you are not guarded, that is the
protection. Anywhere you go, they are still saying hello, hello. So,
right now, it’s a sweet union. 4 years! Somebody said ah-ah, e don reach
4 years just now? I said yes. July next year, I’m gonna be 5, then 6
and so on. And guess what? I am married for better, for worse because I
didn’t go into it expecting it to be a bed of roses. Two different
people have come together to form a union. Two different ideologies, two
different backgrounds. So, as you go along, you will run against each
other in unpleasant ways, but the best part of it is you are able to
resolve it, the love is still glowing as you move on and the marriage
and the family are still intact. I’m having fun as a married man.
Em…without trying to discredit anybody, because any past relationship I
have had, I respect, and a lot of them have moved into their own
families, so I try my best to respect who they are now regardless of
whatever we had in the past and that doesn’t make any of them
unqualified or not a house wife material. No! It was a decision I made.
All the relationships I had in my industry did not get me to that point
where I could decide to say I do. Yeah, it went towards that direction,
but it didn’t get there. So, I said to myself: dude, maybe you need to
look away from this industry, maybe your life partner is not there,
because sometimes people say if the person is in the entertainment
industry, the person already understands how crazy your schedule is,
knows that you would travel, you can be on tour for 6 months and because
the person is in the industry, the person will understand. That’s what
some people say. So, I thought that would work, but it didn’t work like
that and it was not just a one-time thing. So, I decided; I said, take
your mind away from the entertainment industry and look outside; maybe
the wife you want to look for now would be out there and not in the
industry. So, I deliberately took my mind away from the entertainment
industry and I told myself that well, they are fantastic people, but I
think one relationship, two relationships, three, four, five is enough
to convince you that you know what, try it from another side. I decided
to look out and it was in my looking out, away from the industry, that I
met my wife in God’s kingdom. I went to perform at KICC (Kingsway
International Christian Centre in London). Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo’s
church. That was how and where I met my wife. She came with her sister.
After my performance, I was signing my CDs for people. I was so busy, I
wasn’t even looking up. People were on queue; they buy and I sign. But
immediately I saw her hand, I looked up, saw a very beautiful woman, but
couldn’t do anything because there were so many people on the queue.
Later, when I left for my hotel, I still couldn’t get her off my mind.
My heart was troubled. Then, a friend called to say he wanted to take me
out because I complained of boredom. Along the way, he said we should
stop over first at one exhibition going on, and reluctantly I accepted.
Azuh, listen to this – when we got to the exhibition, it turned out that
it was my wife’s sister that was organizing it and guess what? She was
also there! And that was how we started. She refused to give me her
number. She only gave me her email address and I started bombarding her
with mails, sometimes 10 in a day. Haba! Na me now! Let me tell you
another interesting story – during that time, I was getting shows almost
every week in London. So, we were always seeing. My manager will call
me and say there’s this show, but what they are offering is not much and
I will say take it! Shebi they will take care of accommodation, flight
and so on? Just to see my wife o! So, I was always going to London,
seeing her till we got married. But you people, the press, didn’t know
until we finally got married. My marriage was a big surprise to all of
you, which I like. At least, una don leave me alone (General laughter).
Sule, a Nigerian army officer who just wedded eight months ago has been killed by Boko Haram members.
military friend of late Captain Sule told SaharaReporters that Boko
Haram gunmen killed the young, newly wed officer in an attack on a
military contingent over the weekend.“Captain Sule was killed in a battle launched by Boko Haram fighters
against our troops between Saturday and Sunday,” said his military
friend who is based in the Ikom Barracks in Cross River State. The
officer, who provided wedding photos of Captain Sule, added that he and
other friends of the deceased officer “received the news with utmost
shock. He was killed between Saturday and Sunday, but we only got the
Their mum is called Nimot.
The name, Ruth Abosede Adekola may not ring a bell, but that of her
husband does. She is the wife of popular Yoruba actor, Odunlade Adekola,
the pillar behind the Abeokuta-based actor.
She has just revealed how they met in 1995 at a
church vigil, how blissful their marriage has been, their 3 boys and most importantly cleared the air on the misconception that Odunlade is a bully and wife-beater.