#NHBi – Dear Sugabelly, NOTHING noble in having sex with many people

Found this interesting article written by Olumayowa Ogundele and decided to share with y’all 🙂

So last Wednesday night, Twitter
(Lagos) went berserk after a female tweep (@Sugabelly) disclosed during
#NHBi, that she had slept with a total of 13 men. Apparently, that’s
what a ‘body count’ is.
As expected, (because sex is always an interesting topic), all hell was let loose with different opinions filling my timeline.

While many condemned the lady in question for being flippant about her sexcapades, others brought out shields to protect her.
At first, I thought to ignore the cconversation but naaah…. I can’t.
 Media platforms are places where opinions are formed and reformed. All sides must be represented.
PS- I think this post will have a part 2, so it doesn’t come out too long.
Moving on….
Many people may have their reasons for indulging in pre-marital or extramarital sex but… there are only two sides to a coin.

Head or Tail!


Same way, you have good or bad. Right or wrong. These concepts are not gender based, or they shouldn’t be.

As i thought of the best way to present my opinion this morning, a part of the bible came to mind.

Philippians 4: 8

“… You’ll do best by filling your minds and.meditating on things
true, noble, authentic, compelling, gracious – the best, not the worst;
the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse…”.

Although, this is found in the Holy Book for Christians, I seriously
doubt that any religion, race, tribe, moral compass would discredit it.

So, what is noble about sleeping with more (wo)men than you can remember? Nothing.


What is praiseworthy about having many people know you in the most intimate way possible? My answer remains the same, nothing.

As far as I know, no man or woman, past or present, was ever honoured or celebrated for the number of partners they had.

Of all the world’s celebrated individuals, those who got caught in
sexual immortality were disgraced… by those who didn’t. Interesting,
isn’t it?

I have a lot more to say… because I know some will ask about
marriages which collapsed because the sex wasn’t great. Or, ……. bla bla
bla.Watch out for part II.
In the meantime, what do you think about what I’ve said so far?
This post was first published on ‘My word, My thoughts, My world’.


Tireni Adebayo

Tireni Adebayo is the Editor of Kemi Filani News. She has BSC in Mass Communication from the Redeemer's University and M.A in Mass Communication from the University of Lagos (2014 - 2015) where she majored in Public Relations and Advertising and Digital Media.  When she is not writing, she is either listening to music or reading her favorite books. Tel: +2348000000901 Address: Herbert Macaulay, Yaba, Lagos, Nigeria Email: [email protected]


  1. Shut up mayowa or whatever you call yourself? Do you know what it means to write satiric?what biz of yours is it?people like you are the fucking pretenders who's slept with countless men please leave sugar belly alone and stop seeking cheap publicity

  2. Nigerians and hypocrisy,they must bring religion into things. Let's talk about morals and what is happening in the world today.90% of the population have pre-marital sex. What sugar belly is tackling is gender inequality and double standards.He is without sin oya cast the stone.

  3. D comments show tht d world we are in is full of both d good and d bad..l just wish or pray tht evil wil not b atop of good..My book of Life says, Let him tht is ignorant , continue to b ignorant, and him tht is wicked continue to b.Same 4 d good. Rev 22

  4. Mayowa, glad u are not afraid to express your opinion. However, I wish you had just laid out your argument without involving religion (bible) or morality based on your own standard…Sincerely, your post just seemed to back Sugabelly's point that many use religion and other ish to judge others and make themselves feel 'better' than other ppl.

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