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If 2face Idibia was a lady: Agony of a female entertainer

Written by Chinedu Hardy Nwadike

I have never seen me fighting for ladies
in this way, but an article I was writing motivated this title and I
had to give it heart and time to see that the world reads this truth no
one has ever bothered to tell.
My apologies to the legend himself, 2face Idibia
for the title, but you are just the opposite of a perfect example for
what the entire article will revolve around, because if a lady had been
wielding your name with every achievements you have, I believe she would
still be single and probably searching for a worthy candidate to warm
her bed with the title of about seventh husband.
I once thought ladies in entertainment
were unserious until I analyzed certain conditions they are usually
faced with. A female entertainer should need about thrice the courage
her male counterpart would summon before taking a step into the
industry, because of the usual societal attachments to being a female
entertainer.
One sweet dream of every African woman
is to get married in a home that will stand the taste of time; have
beautiful kids that will make her proud whenever she stands with other
women. A friend of mine once argued that evens nuns often dream of this.
To make his case stronger, he said that
the wedding day of a woman is often one of the days she will never
forget in her entire life. No matter how old they are, they can tell the
story of how their husband proposed as well as how every arrangement
was made until it ended at the wedding day. No wonder when you fail to
attend the wedding of a lady, you become her enemy forever or many
years.

The society believes that female
entertainers live wayward lives and I believe this comparison has been
drawn from their male counterparts who are often celebrated for their
waywardness.
A blog post read ‘Wizkid grabs the breast of a female fan’, ‘Timaya and girlfriend expecting baby boy’  or ‘Paul of Psquare proposes to girlfriend
we read them and see that in most cases, the number of negative
comments we see are very few, unlike when the camera picked Tiwa Savage
from under, Nigerians nailed her. Who nailed Psquare when one of them
poured juice into his trouser while on stage, we tagged it sexy act.
Funny country in a funny continent.
It will be very unfair to put the ratio
of male artistes to their female counterparts to about 10:1, because the
margin is bigger than that and daily we watch it increase because the
ladies have not received the respect they ought to get from us. The few
that summoned the courage to remain in the industry have either looked
for controversies to attract reasonable attention from the media.
Tonto Dike, Cossy Orjiakor and Pop singer turned gospel singer turned ‘sexy mama’, Maheeda have all been noticed because of what they have done other way round, while the likes of Ini Edo are noticed because they attend events with a bag worth millions of naira. None of these can inspire a kid to greatness.
For a humble family watching this
industry carefully, would they let their daughter join the industry just
like that? Would they be prepared to see their daughter cover the pages
of magazines for a scandal that was actually cooked up for media
attention?
Entertainers are known to spend most of
their nights in hotel rooms after performances or appearances in events
and what do we call ladies who live that kind of life in an average
African setting. Wayward!!
Ladies have received many unfair titles
with the worst being the regular tagging of ‘single mother’ to their
names. The knowledge that one’s brother wants to marry a single mother
causes commotion in a family, but when a rich ‘single father’ (if that
title has ever been used) comes around, no question is asked, he is
tagged one ‘active’ young man.
Who would have married 2face if he had
been a lady with six kids out of wedlock? He would have been tagged
‘baby factory’, yet governors stormed his wedding with gifts, something
that has never been done for the ladies.
We still have our Genevieve Nnaji, Omawumi, Waje
as well as others we have previously tagged single mothers waxing
strong in the industry, but will the societal stigmatization let them
experience the ‘greatest joy of womanhood’?
The press is always there to remind any
new guy that comes around that they are single mothers. Did anyone tell
Paul of Psquare that posting beautiful pictures of him and his baby
mama’s engagement or proposal acceptance is not news because if she
doesn’t say yes to a rich guy whom she already has a child for, would
she be saying yes to me?
The males rule the world and one of them
is also writing this article, we always cover ourselves, but what is
the future of a young girl who has the talent and passion to join one
genre of the industry or another.
Would she ever find the spot that will
multiply her courage by three? Can she get about double that courage to
remain in an industry where men would still want to take advantage of
her and tag a whore if she eventually yields to their tricks?
Many have been rubbished and other have
looked for another talent in them to make it in life, leaving in some
cases, a bunch of fame seeking talentless people on the scene.
They need a fair ground because if the likes of 2face, Ice Prince, Timaya, May D, Sinzu
and other single fathers at one point or another were ladies, they
would still be in the same agony and probably single till date.
Inspire a female entertainer today;
don’t just take advantage of her. The lights of certain stars are fading
because we have polished an unfair ground for them to trade.
To the ladies, it is about self-belief and trust in God. You can only be you and nothing more.

Nwadike, writes from Owerri, Imo State, [email protected] 08136723796, @hardynwa

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