has chosen to explain why the bad girls get good guys…let’s see if you agree
guys don’t gossip? Well, I don’t know about other guys, but my friends and I
do. Though we rarely have the time, but whenever we do, we like gossiping about
women. And I think that subject is very interesting considering how
unbelievable women are.
ago, we were at it again. He was on his laptop and I on mine. Then he
sarcastically laughed out loud, held his head in his two palms in surprise and
said, “So Kemi is the girl Kingsley (not the real names) married!” I know
Kingsley. He is a friend, not a really close one though, but I know him well
enough to know he’s from a good home, has a good job, and seems to be a stable
guy. He is also a handsome decent dude. The type every woman will hope for. I
“Who be kemi?” I asked. “You no sabi am? Kemi. That girl
back in school with one bad ass like that (using his hands to draw up a funny
shape) dark, has big bright eyes… bla bla bla… and he went ahead to describe
her until I had to pretend to suddenly remember her, though I never did. You
know that awkward moment when someone is certain you to know something even
when you have no idea what they are talking about.
curious and asked “So why are you surprised that Kingsley married her?” “She’s a bad girl!” he exclaimed. He was
surprised I asked that question because he expected everyone one who knew Kemi
at all to know she was an unrepentant “runs girl”. “Kingsley deserves a
better girl” he said disapprovingly in a rather disappointed tone. We went
ahead to talk about “bad girls” and how that they almost always gets the “good
are “bad girls”?
of good or bad are relative, diverse and can be confusing. It is difficult to
class someone as good or bad because diverse things inform our individual
opinions of what is good or bad. For instance, an average guy agrees that most
“bad girls” are “good” in bed. Needless to say they want their women to be good
in bed. But most guys wouldn’t want to end up with a “bad girl”. I doubt if
anyone can propound a generally acceptable clear-cut differences between good
and bad. However, culture, upbringing, education, religion, societal
expectations amongst others can determine an individual’s moral standards and
their characterization of a good or bad person.
I assume it
all boils down to moral standards. Promiscuity and waywardness for instance are
unacceptable in our society, so bad girls naturally fall into that category.
The good ones are decent and well-behaved. They keep one boyfriend at a time,
and do not cheat on their partners. They are the “wife materials.” Other
girls get good guys
then, E no dey show for face. How is one supposed to know? Since no
one wants to be labeled “bad”, many have simply learned the art of wearing
masks and have become pros at managing their duality. Where hypocrisy is a
way of life, determining who is a good girl or a bad one is almost impossible.
There are still some real good girls out there though. Locating one is a game
I have a
feeling that at some point, Kemi determines when to switch from bad to good.
Then she wears the “good girl” mask and practices the good girl thing quite
better than the original – doing everything plus ‘extra’ an
original good girl will never do, therefore beating them to it. That will be
irresistible to many men, especially the Kingsleys who is either too naïve or
rather beclouded to sense where Kemi is coming from.
about bad girls
- They are not naïve. They understand men better
and knows how to get their attention
- They understand the power of ‘extra’ and use it
- They appreciate good guys and value them
- They are clear on what they want
- They give it their best shot