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Diary: When we err…forgive…it heals!

I got healed when I stumbled on this
beautiful piece, it was written by a very good friend of mine, you should check
it out too.
you offended me in university, secondary school… I still remember. If you, in
fact offended me in primary school… trust *snaps fingers* that I haven’t
forgotten. If you’ve wondered why we aren’t friends on Facebook or I refused to
follow on twitter so that we can play catch up? I just summed it up for you.
The humane thing would be to apologize but I’m already sure you don’t remember
-ergo! I don’t want pity-apology
is not about me- not really… I just opened with this to assure you that when it
comes to unforgiveness; my FLSC, WAEC and BSC are child’s play. I used to find
it hard to forgive. I don’t forget. EVER.  It gets so bad that even if I
don’t remember the crime, I’ll remember there’s a grudge I should be holding
against you (unhealthy).
trust me, I mean… bank on me beyond reasonable doubt when I tell you this:

and not forgetting aren’t the same
this shit can kill you.
forgetting: coping mechanism
If someone offends you and like me you can’t talk about it…
please, let it go. I plead this for your sanity, on behalf of your future
relationships… and of course your heart because I agree with Louis
Anger is a killing thing: it kills
the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before–it
takes something from him.” – Louis L’Amour, American novelist
 “Forgiveness liberates the
soul. That’s why it’s such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela, South
African president
Sometimes we’re so broken… you know, the people who hurt us
break us because we’ve given them the power to (nothing wrong with that).
Always remember that love is first a choice before it becomes a feeling. So you
take back that power, use it to solder yourself into another form, a better
form. Ben makes us understand that sometimes
Forgiveness is a sign that the
person who has wronged you means more to you than the wrong they have dealt.-
Ben Greenhalgh
Yet you need to
 “Forgiveness means it
finally becomes unimportant that you hit back. You’re done. But it doesn’t
necessarily mean that you want to have lunch with the person.” – Anne Lamott, American
(1954- )
When we fall apart, we’re not supposed to pick up the pieces
and rearrange then as they were. We are to fit in new forms, shape-shift and
thrive on the short-comings and exceptions that make us who we are. Remember
that the next time you fall apart
Obiamaka Ifejika, i havent decided what i am (1989- )
Sometimes we lose face, lose taste, lose ourselves… But it
never really hurts as much as when we lose expression, no? We’re gonna keep
that. It becomes everything. 
P.S. I realize this topic is much more in-depth but have
this part covered first and I just might tell you how not-forgetting can be a
problem too.
Feel free to share and try as much as possible to forgive!
Life is too short to bear grudges against one for long…
Tireni Adebayo

Tireni Adebayo is the Editor of Kemi Filani News. She has BSC in Mass Communication from the Redeemer's University and M.A in Mass Communication from the University of Lagos (2014 - 2015) where she majored in Public Relations and Advertising and Digital Media.  When she is not writing, she is either listening to music or reading her favorite books. Tel: +2348000000901 Address: Herbert Macaulay, Yaba, Lagos, Nigeria Email:

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