I got healed when I stumbled on this
beautiful piece, it was written by a very good friend of mine, you should check
it out too.
you offended me in university, secondary school… I still remember. If you, in
fact offended me in primary school… trust *snaps fingers* that I haven’t
forgotten. If you’ve wondered why we aren’t friends on Facebook or I refused to
follow on twitter so that we can play catch up? I just summed it up for you.
The humane thing would be to apologize but I’m already sure you don’t remember
-ergo! I don’t want pity-apology.
is not about me- not really… I just opened with this to assure you that when it
comes to unforgiveness; my FLSC, WAEC and BSC are child’s play. I used to find
it hard to forgive. I don’t forget. EVER. It gets so bad that even if I
don’t remember the crime, I’ll remember there’s a grudge I should be holding
against you (unhealthy). So
trust me, I mean… bank on me beyond reasonable doubt when I tell you this:
and not forgetting aren’t the same
this shit can kill you.
forgetting: coping mechanism
If someone offends you and like me you can’t talk about it…
please, let it go. I plead this for your sanity, on behalf of your future
relationships… and of course your heart because I agree with Louis
Anger is a killing thing: it kills
the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before–it
takes something from him.” – Louis L’Amour, American novelist
“Forgiveness liberates the
soul. That’s why it’s such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela, South
African president (1994-1999)
Sometimes we’re so broken… you know, the people who hurt us
break us because we’ve given them the power to (nothing wrong with that).
Always remember that love is first a choice before it becomes a feeling. So you
take back that power, use it to solder yourself into another form, a better
form. Ben makes us understand that sometimes
Forgiveness is a sign that the
person who has wronged you means more to you than the wrong they have dealt.-
Yet you need to
“Forgiveness means it
finally becomes unimportant that you hit back. You’re done. But it doesn’t
necessarily mean that you want to have lunch with the person.” – Anne Lamott, American
novelist (1954- )
When we fall apart, we’re not supposed to pick up the pieces
and rearrange then as they were. We are to fit in new forms, shape-shift and
thrive on the short-comings and exceptions that make us who we are. Remember
that the next time you fall apart – Obiamaka Ifejika, i havent decided what i am (1989- )
Sometimes we lose face, lose taste, lose ourselves… But it
never really hurts as much as when we lose expression, no? We’re gonna keep
that. It becomes everything.
P.S. I realize this topic is much more in-depth but have
this part covered first and I just might tell you how not-forgetting can be a
Feel free to share and try as much as possible to forgive!
Life is too short to bear grudges against one for long…