A woman was complaining a while ago saying “I miss my single days, I miss those days when I don’t have to go to the kitchen to cook, the days when I would get home when I like and hang out with whomever I want to hang out with…the days when I…” I realized that she wasn’t happy with her marriage!
So, I wondered “is it that married women are not as happy as the single women or vice versa?!” Well, I did my little research and I found that 90% of ladies that get married to men that do not love them as much more as they love them (that is, when the love ratio is 30/70, 20/80, 10/90) end up being unhappy in their marriages. The happy couples are those that love each other equally before mariage or if the love ratio is only slightly different (that is, when the love ratio is 50/50, 40/60). So here goes my advise, don’t go into a relationship where you are the one begging to be loved (where you love your partner much more than he does love you)!!!
I know we all want to have someone to share our dreams, fears with, someone that knows us and is always there, your best friend and lover all rolled in one! but seriously when you see that you are in a relationship and you people are always n always n always fighting or in a relationship where there is no trust, then let go!
Don’t get me wrong, I am not against you falling in love but all I am trying to say is make sure you fall inlove with someone that is ready to catch you…Oh by the way, I do not belong to the school of thought that says that Ladies should be single…Of course, ladies should get married and live ever happily after with the one they truly love but my emphasis here is ‘Love wisely’.
The person that truly deserves you and knows your worth won’t put you through unnecessary stress, he/she will be there in your trying times, you sef you’ll know that you are in something worthwhile not all this senrenren...Lolz
For more advice, you can read what Pastor EA Adeboye said here
Tireni Adebayo is the Editor of Kemi Filani News. She has BSC in Mass Communication from the Redeemer's University and M.A in Mass Communication from the University of Lagos (2014 - 2015) where she majored in Public Relations and Advertising and Digital Media. When she is not writing, she is either listening to music or reading her favorite books. Tel: +2348000000901 Address: Herbert Macaulay, Yaba, Lagos, Nigeria Email: email@example.com