The last time I posted something on Skinny girls; today’s post is on Orobo girls because, I realized that Nigerians
are so insensitive to Big shapes! If
you have never been big, you may not understand the point of this post and please
if you have never been over a UK size 14 (US 12), then you have never been big.
growing up, I was real chubby and they actually called me “Orobo” – (the Yoruba
word for plus size people which got popular when Pepsi came out with their 50cl
bottle); I didn’t like it. But honestly, it made me self-conscious. I alternate
between UK sizes 10/12 right now but I know I’m not the only girl who’s got the
Orobo story. My close friends sometimes call me “Rubutu” – (Yoruba word for
round and short) which we all laugh about. I’m beautiful; you’re beautiful.
Just be comfortable in your own skin. So I read this story and got connected to
it and thought to share it too:
me more than being called ‘Orobo’…Blaming my weight for my health problems, I
could understand but blaming my weight for my relationship status I am yet to
to me in church once and blatantly said ‘Orobo when will you lose weight
so you can marry?’ While poking the obvious love handles that I was trying hard
to hide and God knows I was a second close to
till I remembered I was in public and risked being tagged as disrespectful
and/or violent. It would be an unforgivable sin to the members of the
congregation, so I looked at her and smiled because all the words in my head
were words of anger and maybe some curse words.
are married feel they have the right to be big because they have husbands and
maybe children. The first line of defence is ‘I am a married woman, so I can be
big’ while of course we the single ones have no reason to be big. It doesn’t
matter if it was an effect of self-esteem issues, health problems or genetics.
As long as you are big and single, you are an outcast.
heard or saw in Phat Girlz (the movie), single Nigerian men DO
NOT prefer the single bigger women, it is a known fact that to get
married, you would be required to lose weight and are free to gain everything
back as soon as you say I do, of course at the risk of losing your husband to a
smaller woman in extra-marital affairs. I am yet to find a Nigerian
fashion designer that caters to plus-size women; I’m talking ready to wear
the only one that gets these insensitive comments, here are some of the
comments on weight that some people have gotten in the past:
Hmmm…you will ruin my car shocks
my personal favourite…
- Aunty Orobo, wetin you wan
buy, I get your size!
like I said only the single and big would really understand. It is a Monday
Dialogue post so for the benefit of those in doubt, I’d like to hear from our
men: what is your take on ‘big’ women? Raise your voice, use the comment box to