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For Fat Girlz!

 The last time I posted something on Skinny girls; today’s post is on Orobo girls because, I realized that Nigerians
are so insensitive to Big shapes! If
you have never been big, you may not understand the point of this post and please
if you have never been over a UK size 14 (US 12), then you have never been big.

From a reader:“While
growing up, I was real chubby and they actually called me “Orobo” – (the Yoruba
word for plus size people which got popular when Pepsi came out with their 50cl
bottle); I didn’t like it. But honestly, it made me self-conscious. I alternate
between UK sizes 10/12 right now but I know I’m not the only girl who’s got the
Orobo story. My close friends sometimes call me “Rubutu” – (Yoruba word for
round and short) which we all laugh about. I’m beautiful; you’re beautiful.
Just be comfortable in your own skin. So I read this story and got connected to
it and thought to share it too:

 Nothing irritates
me more than being called ‘Orobo’…Blaming my weight for my health problems, I
could understand but blaming my weight for my relationship status I am yet to
understand.
A lady walked up
to me in church once and blatantly said ‘Orobo when will you lose weight
so you can marry?’
While poking the obvious love handles that I was trying hard
to hide and God knows I was a second close to bitchslapping her
till I remembered I was in public and risked being tagged as disrespectful
and/or violent. It would be an unforgivable sin to the members of the
congregation, so I looked at her and smiled because all the words in my head
were words of anger and maybe some curse words.
The big women who
are married feel they have the right to be big because they have husbands and
maybe children. The first line of defence is ‘I am a married woman, so I can be
big’ while of course we the single ones have no reason to be big. It doesn’t
matter if it was an effect of self-esteem issues, health problems or genetics.
As long as you are big and single, you are an outcast.
Forget what you
heard or saw in Phat Girlz (the movie), single Nigerian men DO
NOT prefer the single bigger women, it is a known fact that to get
married, you would be required to lose weight and are free to gain everything
back as soon as you say I do, of course at the risk of losing your husband to a
smaller woman in extra-marital affairs. I am yet to find a Nigerian
fashion designer that caters to plus-size women; I’m talking ready to wear
plus-size clothing.
To prove I am not
the only one that gets these insensitive comments, here are some of the
comments on weight that some people have gotten in the past:
If you look like this now, what will you look like when you have children?
You know you look old, you will only get married as a second wife looking like
that?
My dear, with the way you are adding weight, you’d scare all the husbands away
o
Ah! stop eating the burger and ice-cream in America
You look like you just came from a calabar fattening room
You need to lose weight, now is the time to catch the guys
Will your matriculation gown fit you at all?
  Hmmm…you will ruin my car shocks 
       And
my personal favourite…
  • Aunty Orobo, wetin you wan
    buy, I get your size!
 I could go on but
like I said only the single and big would really understand. It is a Monday
Dialogue post so for the benefit of those in doubt, I’d like to hear from our
men: what is your take on ‘big’ women? Raise your voice, use the comment box to
express yourself.
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Tireni Adebayo

Tireni Adebayo is the Editor of Kemi Filani News.She has BSC in Mass Communication from the Redeemer's University and M.A in Mass Communication from the University of Lagos (2014 - 2015) where she majored in Public Relations and Advertising and Digital Media.  When she is not writing, she is either listening to music or reading her favorite books.Tel: +2348000000901 Address: Herbert Macaulay, Yaba, Lagos, Nigeria Email: [email protected]

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